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Question: Hi please give me a solution for my problem I got married in July 2014 in August 2014 I got pregnant and it is unplanned pregnancy he is my relative but I dono much about him after I become pregnant only I came to he is severe addict to drinking n smoking during my pregnancy he drunk n came to my mom place in the midnight after I went till divorce then he took treatment he is very much mad on sex n he never see my situation even I'm ill he wants sex till now I'm fighting daily due to that now .I have ten months old baby I'm very much worried about him due to our fight whether he will get disturbed and my biggest stress is being in home I was working till my end of pregnancy now being in home bringing more anxiety please say some solution as I am going mad daily.Will mybaby would have affected mentally now if so do I need to take treatment
Brief Answer:
you need evaluation for depression with anxious distress
Detailed Answer:
Hello Young lady,
Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern and feelings you have gone through.
Your marital relationship is disturbed. You are mother of 10 months old baby.
To solve your issue, your husband needs treatment (which he may be already taking), he needs to undergo counseling as well as you both need to go for couple counseling.
If your relationship is disturbed, development of your baby may get affected as you unknowingly may not be able to provide appropriate care.
To help you more as well as to tell you that you need treatment or not I need more information.
- Sad mood, lack of interest in routine/pleasurable activities, weeping/crying spells, hopelessness, reduce appetite, excessive fatigue or weakness, lack of concentration, sleep disturbances, death wishes, suicidal ideas : among these symptoms which are there in your case and since when? Please narrate each symptom briefly.
- Is there any treatment going on of your husband? If yes let me know some details about his symptoms and treatment.
- What is usual reason of fight between you (apart from sex if any)?
- How is health of your baby? What is her weight?
I will be happy to help further after your response.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
you need evaluation for depression with anxious distress
Detailed Answer:
Hello Young lady,
Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern and feelings you have gone through.
Your marital relationship is disturbed. You are mother of 10 months old baby.
To solve your issue, your husband needs treatment (which he may be already taking), he needs to undergo counseling as well as you both need to go for couple counseling.
If your relationship is disturbed, development of your baby may get affected as you unknowingly may not be able to provide appropriate care.
To help you more as well as to tell you that you need treatment or not I need more information.
- Sad mood, lack of interest in routine/pleasurable activities, weeping/crying spells, hopelessness, reduce appetite, excessive fatigue or weakness, lack of concentration, sleep disturbances, death wishes, suicidal ideas : among these symptoms which are there in your case and since when? Please narrate each symptom briefly.
- Is there any treatment going on of your husband? If yes let me know some details about his symptoms and treatment.
- What is usual reason of fight between you (apart from sex if any)?
- How is health of your baby? What is her weight?
I will be happy to help further after your response.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I'll get sad mood some times my baby is doing fine his weight is 7.7 kg my concern is my baby now I'll reduce my fight now on but previous fight would disturb baby or not
Brief Answer:
no past disturbance would not disturrb your baby
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for follow up.
No past fights would not disturb your baby. His weight is 7.7 kg and that is appropriate. His physical health is likely fine. Baby's brain grows maximum during first two years of life. Baby needs maximum stimulation during this period. You need to spare happy and joyful time with your baby as much you can.
Occasional sadness is ok but persistent sadness for most of the time and most of the days for at least 2 weeks needs to be evaluated by psychiatrist.
Considering your answer you do not need any treatment now.
To prevent depression and maintain your mental health you need to follow healthy lifestyle. This includes regular daily exercise (walking or running), hygienic food habits (no junk food, no fatty food, preferably only home-made food with law salt and fat with more fruits and vegetables) and timely scheduled sleep. Yoga- meditation can also help. Being a mother of young baby you may not be able to get regular sleep and spare time for exercise but still try follow as much as you can.
Feel free to discuss further.
no past disturbance would not disturrb your baby
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for follow up.
No past fights would not disturb your baby. His weight is 7.7 kg and that is appropriate. His physical health is likely fine. Baby's brain grows maximum during first two years of life. Baby needs maximum stimulation during this period. You need to spare happy and joyful time with your baby as much you can.
Occasional sadness is ok but persistent sadness for most of the time and most of the days for at least 2 weeks needs to be evaluated by psychiatrist.
Considering your answer you do not need any treatment now.
To prevent depression and maintain your mental health you need to follow healthy lifestyle. This includes regular daily exercise (walking or running), hygienic food habits (no junk food, no fatty food, preferably only home-made food with law salt and fat with more fruits and vegetables) and timely scheduled sleep. Yoga- meditation can also help. Being a mother of young baby you may not be able to get regular sleep and spare time for exercise but still try follow as much as you can.
Feel free to discuss further.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thank you very much doctor hence I will follow the same but how to confirm my baby is not affected by our fight .This is the main things as I am very much concerned about him
Brief Answer:
Pediatrician can guide you for that
Detailed Answer:
Namste,
Thanks for query.
You can ask your baby boy's pediatrician to check your baby. His developmental milestones should be evaluated. When these milestones according to his age are normal, we can confirm that he is not affected due to your fight and normal.
If still any query, you are welcome to ask.
If no query, you can close the discussion and rate the answer.
In future you can contact me directly with following link:
Http://bit.ly/drchintansolanki
with three follow up questions.
Take care dear.
Pediatrician can guide you for that
Detailed Answer:
Namste,
Thanks for query.
You can ask your baby boy's pediatrician to check your baby. His developmental milestones should be evaluated. When these milestones according to his age are normal, we can confirm that he is not affected due to your fight and normal.
If still any query, you are welcome to ask.
If no query, you can close the discussion and rate the answer.
In future you can contact me directly with following link:
Http://bit.ly/drchintansolanki
with three follow up questions.
Take care dear.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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