Hi I Am A 20 Year Old Female Concerned About

Hi
I am a 20 year old female concerned about the size of my labia minora. I have had two relationships over the past few years and have asked both partners about the size of my labia minora in comparison to others they have seen. They both said that mine looked slightly different and had more skin than others. Although it didn't bother them, I am deeply embarrassed and insecure about it. Its ruining my sex drive and putting stress on my current relationship. I have sex about 4-6 times a week and lately i've been experiencing soreness which is probably normal for someone this sexually active but my minora has swelled up several times in my past after intense long sex. Is this something i should be concerned about?