I Am Under So Much Stress. My Youngest Son Is

I am under so much stress. My youngest son is 22i years old and failing all of his classes this semester. He is bi polar and I am his punching bag (not litterallay though). He continues to have his maniac moments with me and he refuses to take the meds that his doctor has prescribed, so he is a loose cannon . He has severe panic attacks and really could use something like xanax it has worked in the past. if he does not receive something for anxiety I wii be needing something