Suggest Remedy For Deep Cut In The Rectum

I had a baby 8years ago and during delivery the doctor cut a 180 degree cut into me bowel and did not tell me. I found out there was a hole that I have had 9 surgeries on to repair and none of them has worked to heal this serious medical issue. The last surgery did not work now the doctor want me to wear a bag on the outside for the rest of my life. I have a young child , no control of my bowel, and I don t know what to do. I have to work to help with the household income and now I am suffering because of a deep cut that should not have happened. Please Help