Suggest Remedy For Tight Hymen

i am 20 years old and have not had sex yet. the problem is the hymen is too taut and painful, i can't even use tampons and i have been trying for years. I had an operation to remove a skin tag from hymen but this was no help at all really. the hymen seems as inpenetreable as ever. The problem is getting more and more urgent as i really want to start having sex with my boyfriend. i really dont know what to do. I don't think the hymen will break during sex as it is very very painful. also i am not so sure i can afford another operation to remove hymen+ the gynecologist didnt want to remove any more of the hymen than she did as 'i havent had sex yet'. Advice would be a godsend! thanks