I ve been a grandmother figure to three children and at one time we were connected by ex husbands. The daughter-in-law was very abusive to me in subtle and not so subtle ways, but I fell in love with the girls and they loved me to pieces. I was the only calming force in their life as the parents were always screaming at them and each other. They have accused me of some terrible things that I never did, but I staid in this crazy relationship because of the girls. Now that they are grown (one, 26, and married to a wonderful man), the mother is trying to ruin my relationship. She s gone and told stories about me, you name it, to the girls and anyone who will talk to her. In EVERY relationship (female girlfriends) she has engaged in physical abuse towards them so, of course, another broken relationship broken. She can only be friends with one person at a time. The minute a third person enters, she ll start some kind of problem and, again, end of relationship. She s jealous if I talk to her brother and gets furious with her brother for talking to me. She s just constantly saying bad things about me and the girls will try and take their mothers side, but eventually call me and want me back in their lives. Does this possibly sound like Borderline Personality Disorder? It s progressing and I m wondering if I should try and cut myself out of their ALL their lives. I m 72 and I ve been so good to all of them and I ve loved those girls, but I m worn down. Please(!) give me some advice! Thank you so much.