Can HIV Be Contracted Through Non-penetrative Sex?

Question : Hand jobs and HIV risks:
1) I have had 7 handjobs during massage at SPA during past 1.5 years. The recent ones being one on sep 7 and other on sept 27
2) I have not been exposed to therapists vaginal fluids or saliva in any of these encounters.
3) On sep 7 incident I shaved my pubic hair around my penis and balls just before the visit to SPA (probably 1 hr before). I asked the masseuse for a hard pressure massage as I was having body aches. After massaging my body for half an hour she gave me a hand job with warm massage oil and I ejaculated on my body. I did not notice any blood during the incident. After 3 weeks of the incident I started having many symptoms like fatigue, body aches (neck and back), chills, small rashes (tiny red dots in patches) which disappear in 1 day and re appear elsewhere. No fever (only mild fever initially for 1-2 days) but my body gets hot during the sleep and I wake up all of sudden. Lot of anxiety and nightmares. I lost my appetite in this week which I eventually regained by the end of the week. Second week the symptoms were mild, however I my anxiety and depression grew. By the end of this week I noticed a lymph node in my groin area. It is not painful or tender. I also have constant itching in my groin may be due to fungal infection. Could this have cause the swollen lymphnode?? I have noticed any lymph node under my armpits and neck. I repeatedly keep checking my neck for lymph nodes and now my neck appears to be swollen. I am confused whether it is a lymph node or muscle. It has been over a month now and now I have mild sore throat and mild fever and stuffy nose. I have started smoking a lot everyday after quitting for nearly 2years. I am unable to sleep at nights and afraid to test. My concerns are:
1) I have never checked the hands of masseuse during the massages and if they had any tiny cuts or lesions on hands which may bleed due to friction in the massage and comes in contact with tiny cuts or abrasions on my body am I at risk?
2) Does my shaving of pubic hair just before incident increases any risk. I did not notice any major or bleeding cut but may got small nicks or scratches from razor.
3) Any small abrasions or pimples present on my body would increase threat?
4) Does the presence of massage oil will decrease or increase the risk? Will it completely kill the virus?
5) Also please answer my question about lymph nodes I mentioned earlier.
I am 100% sure that I never came in contact with vaginal/oral fluids. All my worry is that I never bothered to check the hand of masseuses during all my encounters. I strongly feel that I would have noticed if there was any active bleeding going around. But I never noticed anything.

Thanks for the response doctor.

I have few more concerns. Please help

1) I am circumsized long back probably 15 years ago. Does this have any impact?

2) Please comment on my symptoms mentioned and how closely they mimic infection.

3) You mentioned cut exposing mucosa. May you please explain this a bit. Does small shaving cuts on testicles give exposure to mucosa?

4) Do the lymph nodes hurt or they can be non tender as well? I have also noticed a lymph node near my right elbow.