Have Erectile Dysfunction. How To Get This Cured?

Posted on Thu, 21 Mar 2013

Question: Hi,
I am 27 year old guy from Canada. I recently got married but was not able to go onto honey moon because of personal reason & my wife & I had to stay away for 1 month. Now when I am trying to have sexual relationship with her I am not getting my penis hard. It becomes hard at times but is not staying longer. I use to had masturbation earlier. I am not sure is that because of that I have lost strength. Masturbation was not more than 2-3 times a week. Please advise how to get my penis hard so that I can have good life with my wife.

Answered by Dr. Payman Hajiazim (18 minutes later)

Hi there, thanks for asking. Fortunately it is not related to masturbation. Masturbation brings premature ejaculation for some people, but not lack of strength in penis. Loss of strength in penis can be related to lack of arousal. It is a mental issue not related to circulation problem of penis or any other thing. You and your wife can learn about foreplay and practice it. It is a good way to increase the arousal. Sometimes people spend more than half an hour just for the foreplay. It can begin with looking, smelling, etc and you and your partner are not allowed to start sex before a certain period of time. I wish you and your wife an enjoyable life.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Payman Hajiazim (12 hours later)

Hi,

Thanks for responding. I am bit nervous & getting tensed. If after trying this if it does not works, then should pills like Viagra be tried for 1-2 time to gain some confidence.

Are there any negative effects of taking it & can it ruin my married life.
I am getting to much nervous about it. I am thinking if I have Erectal Dysfunction. Can that be case.

Please help

Answered by Dr. Payman Hajiazim (10 hours later)

Hi there, thanks for asking. You can try viagra as you said. There is no problem with taking viagra. You should be cautious about taking the medication since some medications can interact with it.
Erectal dysfunction may have different causes. Smoking, blood pressure and diabetes are among the factors. For you it seems to be psychological and it is treatable. I am optimistic about it. Let me know if you have any other question.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Payman Hajiazim (8 minutes later)

Hi,
Thanks for replying. For me I think it is case where in I was too much addicted to porn. By too much I dont mean that watching it daily. But it was case where in I was watching it 2-3 times a week. And Porn addictions sets wrong impression in mind. Over last 24 hours I have read that stop watching porn at all & concentrating on partner can solve your issue. I read an article where in described how you can flush your mind by not watching porn & clear your mind and things can be back to normal in 4-8 weeks. Its about clearing mind & being optimistic & stopping watching porn stuff.

Please advise does that makes sense to you as well. & stopping that ca help me gain strength & achive my stiffness in penis for my real partner & love.

Answered by Dr. Payman Hajiazim (2 hours later)

Hi there,

You are right regarding not watching the porn and its positive effect. If you augment it with foreplay, it may be more effective.
If you think much about it, it brings performance anxiety for you (like the anxiety that people find while lecturing). If you just "let it go", and do it, you will have less problem. I wish you a good health.

Note: For further guidance on mental health, Click here.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar