Sign-in to Ask A Doctor - 24x7
OR
Sign in with Google
How To Handle Cranky Behavior And Craving For Mother's Love In An Infant By Working Mother?
Question: Hello Doctor,
I am a mother of a 1 year baby.
I am having a very difficult time managing my baby due to the below reasons
1) As I took an one year break and stayed with my baby now she is very much attached with me.
2) Now when I have joined my work , She suddenly become vey nagy and my paretns are not able to manage her at all more than 3-4 hours
3) As she understood that I leave her for work for some times , now she start crying even when she notices me to leave the room.
4) one day I stayed at work for 9 hours and my baby developed dark circle below her eyes.
5) Today she understood that when she sleeps I go out for some work and now she is also scared to sleep at night.
I am not able to understand will this habit change in some days or will this affect my babies health as she cries a lot without me around. However she is taking normal food.
Moreover anything we can do to pacify her or to change her habit? If nothing works out I have to quit my job
I am a mother of a 1 year baby.
I am having a very difficult time managing my baby due to the below reasons
1) As I took an one year break and stayed with my baby now she is very much attached with me.
2) Now when I have joined my work , She suddenly become vey nagy and my paretns are not able to manage her at all more than 3-4 hours
3) As she understood that I leave her for work for some times , now she start crying even when she notices me to leave the room.
4) one day I stayed at work for 9 hours and my baby developed dark circle below her eyes.
5) Today she understood that when she sleeps I go out for some work and now she is also scared to sleep at night.
I am not able to understand will this habit change in some days or will this affect my babies health as she cries a lot without me around. However she is taking normal food.
Moreover anything we can do to pacify her or to change her habit? If nothing works out I have to quit my job
Brief Answer:
It will go over a period of time
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Thanks for the query
I can understand your problem.This is called separation anxiety and it is almost universal to all the babies.In most of the babies it is transient and fades away over a period of time(called healthy separation anxiety a normal developmental stage).Only in few babies it persists or gets severe enough to be called separation anxiety disorder.It peaks at 10-18 months of age.
It is not unusual that the parents suffer as much as or even more than babies after being separated.
You can ease the separation anxiety with your efforts to make the baby and also by keeping yourself calm.The role of care givers is as much important.
Here are few tips which you can use-
1)Make your departure short-
Don't make your departure too long as this may make your baby afraid of something is getting wrong.Depart with full confidence with smile.Once you leave the door don't come back(as this shows that you are more anxious than the baby).You need not to worry as the care givers are your parents not a hired one.
2)Make sure that your parents give immediate attention to the baby after your departure by distracting him with the help of favourite toys.I don't think that you need to teach your parents regarding feeding care,care of nappies and all that.
3)You can practice this at home for short intervals and then increase the duration gradually.But be sure that you are off sight for the set time limits.
4)Check your own stress with the help of exercise,yoga,healthy diet.As it is important that you must be as confidant as your baby and caregivers.
5)Learn more and more about separation anxiety.As going through this you will get to know that this is normal.It is a gradual process and will go over a period of time.
6)There are few signs by which you can differentiate the healthy separation anxiety with the separation anxiety disorder.In the separation anxiety disorder the problem persists for months.The child may avoid taking food,may hold his breath.He may get blue or may develop abnormal movement.In this condition you should seek help of a pediatrician/psychologist.
In your case as baby is accepting foods well and his behaviour is not very abnormal I hope it will go away with your best efforts.
Regards
It will go over a period of time
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Thanks for the query
I can understand your problem.This is called separation anxiety and it is almost universal to all the babies.In most of the babies it is transient and fades away over a period of time(called healthy separation anxiety a normal developmental stage).Only in few babies it persists or gets severe enough to be called separation anxiety disorder.It peaks at 10-18 months of age.
It is not unusual that the parents suffer as much as or even more than babies after being separated.
You can ease the separation anxiety with your efforts to make the baby and also by keeping yourself calm.The role of care givers is as much important.
Here are few tips which you can use-
1)Make your departure short-
Don't make your departure too long as this may make your baby afraid of something is getting wrong.Depart with full confidence with smile.Once you leave the door don't come back(as this shows that you are more anxious than the baby).You need not to worry as the care givers are your parents not a hired one.
2)Make sure that your parents give immediate attention to the baby after your departure by distracting him with the help of favourite toys.I don't think that you need to teach your parents regarding feeding care,care of nappies and all that.
3)You can practice this at home for short intervals and then increase the duration gradually.But be sure that you are off sight for the set time limits.
4)Check your own stress with the help of exercise,yoga,healthy diet.As it is important that you must be as confidant as your baby and caregivers.
5)Learn more and more about separation anxiety.As going through this you will get to know that this is normal.It is a gradual process and will go over a period of time.
6)There are few signs by which you can differentiate the healthy separation anxiety with the separation anxiety disorder.In the separation anxiety disorder the problem persists for months.The child may avoid taking food,may hold his breath.He may get blue or may develop abnormal movement.In this condition you should seek help of a pediatrician/psychologist.
In your case as baby is accepting foods well and his behaviour is not very abnormal I hope it will go away with your best efforts.
Regards
Note: For further queries related to your child health, Talk to a Pediatrician. Click here to Book a Consultation.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Raju A.T
Answered by
Get personalised answers from verified doctor in minutes across 80+ specialties
