question-icon

How To Overcome Guilt After A Sexual Activity?

default
Posted on Sat, 3 Jan 2015
Twitter Sat, 3 Jan 2015 Answered on
Twitter Sat, 31 Jan 2015 Last reviewed on
Question : hi,
i am single, unmarried. recently had visited a massage parlour and in the end received a happy ending(handjob). Nothing other than this had happened. this is the first time. now i am feeling very guilty and ashamed of what has gone through. how to handle and overcome this guilt
doctor
Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (33 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Not repeating the same mistake is best you to overcome guilt

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using healthcaremmagic.

I read your query and understand your concern.

First of all you need to accept that you can not correct any mistake that has been done in past. What we can do from the mistake is to learn how we can avoid it from repeating.

This is the part of life to do mistakes and learn from them.

Secondly do some stress management with meditation and yoga. You are also advised to take adequate sleep so keep your brain healthy.

Thirdly try to remain occupied with one or another thing. Have something for doing so your brain not distracted to that particular incident.

Finally take a resolution that you will not involve in any such activity which is against your ideology.

Hope this helps you.
If you have any more query feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards
Dr Ashok Kumar

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T
doctor
default
Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (28 minutes later)
Thanks. surely will not be repeating. one more concern is the place of massage parlour is something on the way that i cross almost everyday, so i kind of get reminded about that. dont know what to do about that.
doctor
Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (36 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
laugh it off

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.

The best way to deal some unacceptable thing (here massage parlour) is to make a joke of something which is unacceptable to our inner self.

Try to find some jokes about massage parlour and share the jokes with your friends and colleagues.
By this way the guilt feeling associated with massage parlour will be replaced by the funny side of story.
In this way you will remember the massage parlour for joke kind of things.

Hope this helps you.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for me, so that I get a good feedback.
In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386
Thanks and regards

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T
doctor
default
Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (2 days later)
Thanks doctor. i am not sure how to openly talk about this incident openly with friends or others. can you please help in a way how to go about it. also any way to not feel guilt about this or to forget this.
doctor
Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (19 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
You do not need to talk about incident

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Welcome back to HCM.

Probably you misunderstood me.
I just asked you to find the funny things about massage parlours and share them with friends during lunch break or travel or whenever there is gossip going on.
Use the right time strategy.
Just say hey guys I need to share a joke about something.
It is really interesting and you will fall laughing.

When I googled I found this one (www.utterpants.co.uk/jokes/massage.html) and similarly you can search hundreds of joke about them.

In nutshell you just need to replace your memory about parlour to something else. It is not easy things to do initially so best way to use the other side of things. As you are crossing the parlour almost every day you need the funny side of parlours to replace it. I am suggesting jokes because they can be shared with buddies and everybody likes them at appropriate place.

You need not to share the incident otherwise you will be a joke among buddies.

I hope this helps you.
Thanks and regards
Note: For further guidance on mental health, Click here.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vaishalee Punj
doctor
Answered by
Dr.
Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary

Psychiatrist

Practicing since :2000

Answered : 3347 Questions

premium_optimized

The User accepted the expert's answer

Share on

Get personalised answers from verified doctor in minutes across 80+ specialties

159 Doctors Online

By proceeding, I accept the Terms and Conditions

HCM Blog Instant Access to Doctors
HCM Blog Questions Answered
HCM Blog Satisfaction
How To Overcome Guilt After A Sexual Activity?

Brief Answer: Not repeating the same mistake is best you to overcome guilt Detailed Answer: Hello, Thanks for using healthcaremmagic. I read your query and understand your concern. First of all you need to accept that you can not correct any mistake that has been done in past. What we can do from the mistake is to learn how we can avoid it from repeating. This is the part of life to do mistakes and learn from them. Secondly do some stress management with meditation and yoga. You are also advised to take adequate sleep so keep your brain healthy. Thirdly try to remain occupied with one or another thing. Have something for doing so your brain not distracted to that particular incident. Finally take a resolution that you will not involve in any such activity which is against your ideology. Hope this helps you. If you have any more query feel free to write back to me. Thanks and regards Dr Ashok Kumar