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How To Recover From Traumatic Phase And Depression?

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Posted on Wed, 28 Jan 2015
Question: I am sliding into a very dark and sad depressive place...I no longer want to see anyone except my son..I don't even want to talk to my daughter..I am so depressed about XXXXXXX and now am not even sure that I want to email him or ever see him again as I cannot handle the rejection...I don't see a therapist anymore either..talking no longer helps me at all...I think I am getting very depressed again but do not want to pray or talk about God anymore either...I feel like my life is over..
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Continue to love him and you will feel better

Detailed Answer:
Hello again,

You are still in traumatic phase and are recovering but the darkness and sadness are persisting. Try to talk to your daughter also apart from your son. She also understands you, she has previously also advised you to not to be over analytic or to not to think a thing again and again. Talking to anyone who is close will help you. This will help you in unrevealing your bad thoughts and you will feel better. You are a believer of GOD and don't loose hope.

All what happened can't be said as rejection. Don't think that it was rejection. He stopped to contact you because he was under influence of delusions. He is having Schizophrenia and under influence of diseases he has shown unacceptable behavior. This can't be said as rejection so please don't feel bad about this. Keep one thing in mind that you love him. Continue to love him and don't think about results. We should do our work with pure mind and we should not expect any results. Let GOD decide what is good for us and what is bad for us. GOD will do best thing at end. Don't be depressed.

Don't think life is over, you have passed acute phase of trauma and try to maintain that pace.

Thanks, please ask again if you need to ask more in follow up question.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Ashwin Bhandari
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Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (1 hour later)
Thanks for your reply Dr Bishnoi....my daughter doesn't know what to say to me anymore and I want XXXXXXX to either email me or forget it...I am close to the point of not loving him anymore..I can't take it anymore...none of it...thanks for trying to help though..
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (7 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Please don't think to mail him immediately, lets wait for some more days

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Please you have spent a good time without mailing him and you have to spend some more time. Time difference between your XXXXXXX will not cause any negative effect. Don't think at extreme ends, keep one thing in mind that you love him and he is under influence of delusions and he is not aware of his actions.

Yes you can come close to point of not loving him any more but not at expense of your health. Don't keep any guilt in your mind. Continue to do your work and continue to love him, don't think anything about results.

Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T
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Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (1 hour later)
Don't think about the results? What does THAT mean? Of course I want him to respond to me...that is the point isn't it? If he is not going to respond then what is the point? I want to know if he loves me...and I am not getting a response so I just don't know...my son and daughter both think he does but I don't, not anymore...this has gone on WAY too long and I am not getting any younger...thanks for trying to help but if I don't know if he loves me or not..I am not sure I want to keep going on...I NEED to know what he feels for me...he USED to be DEEPLY in LOVE with me more than with his wife but that was almost eight months ago that he told me that now...
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (7 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Don't let all this to deteriorate your health

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Yes of course you should expect him to respond your XXXXXXX But that should not result in deterioration of your health. I have mentioned that don't think about results and it means that continue to do your work without thinking what will be his response. Keep expectations for his response but don't let is deteriorate your health. We are waiting for his health to improve. He is ill and is under influence of delusions and his behaviour can't be considered as his real behaviour. He is not aware of his actions. Continue to maintain your health and hope for best. As per my opinion one day he should come out of his delusions, I know its difficult because you have no contact with him and you can't give him medicines, still we can hope for best.

Thanks, please ask again for more follow ups.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D
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How To Recover From Traumatic Phase And Depression?

Brief Answer: Continue to love him and you will feel better Detailed Answer: Hello again, You are still in traumatic phase and are recovering but the darkness and sadness are persisting. Try to talk to your daughter also apart from your son. She also understands you, she has previously also advised you to not to be over analytic or to not to think a thing again and again. Talking to anyone who is close will help you. This will help you in unrevealing your bad thoughts and you will feel better. You are a believer of GOD and don't loose hope. All what happened can't be said as rejection. Don't think that it was rejection. He stopped to contact you because he was under influence of delusions. He is having Schizophrenia and under influence of diseases he has shown unacceptable behavior. This can't be said as rejection so please don't feel bad about this. Keep one thing in mind that you love him. Continue to love him and don't think about results. We should do our work with pure mind and we should not expect any results. Let GOD decide what is good for us and what is bad for us. GOD will do best thing at end. Don't be depressed. Don't think life is over, you have passed acute phase of trauma and try to maintain that pace. Thanks, please ask again if you need to ask more in follow up question.