Our Oldest Son Is 14, Autistic, And Going Through Puberty He Has Told Me "penis Hurts." I Have No Experience At All With How This Would Feel Or How I Can Help Him. He Just Doesn't Understand And I Feel Helpless.

Question : Our oldest son is 14, autistic, and going through puberty. I cannot say he is "non verbal" because he uses words but he doesn't use sentences much or conversations at all. He has excellent teachers and therapists and is progressing with communicating his needs. However, when he's sick, he really can't tell me what hurts and it is heartbreaking to me because I can't help him. He sometimes says, "tummy hurts," but if I ask him if anything else hurts--like his tooth, ear, toe, etc.--he looks confused and agitated as if he just wants me to stop asking. Here's the thing: with puberty in full swing, he is getting several erections throughout the day and when it happens, he lies flat down on the floor, on his stomach. I ask him if he's okay and he always says "yes!" because it's an automatic response. However, in the last 2 weeks or so, he has told me "penis hurts." Of course, we have a psychiatrist and therapists whom he sees, so I'm sure I can get help or suggestions with how to help him with this for it is something that is really impossible for him to understand or maybe it's just I don't know at all how to approach it. My question for you is: is there any pain involved with his erections? He looks fearful and uncomfortable when it happens, and he does look pained. Since I'm his mother, I have no experience at all with how this would feel or how I can help him. He just doesn't understand and I feel helpless. Thanks so much for any suggestions or thoughts you could pass along!
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