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Posted on
Wed, 19 Oct 2016
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Question : I have a 3-4 year old grandson and 5-6 year old grandaughter. I babysit them with my wife once per week. I don't like to play rough with kids as I'm 76 and don't move well anymore. My granddaughter is very smart and a XXXXXXX but my grandson is very rowdy and jealous of her. I have tried having a relationship with him by asking him caring questions but he no longer responds. I was somewhat mean to him a few weeks ago when I squeezed his hand angrily when he was holding a water gun an threatening to spray me. Since then he no longer wants me to babysit and cries violently and for a long time when he sees me or thinks I will be coming to babysit. To me honest I find him obnoxious and very provocative and would stay away but this would disrupt my relations with my wife and my daughter and son in law. I'm not sure what to do now.
Brief Answer:
I think behavioral intervention can do better once the things are redone
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns.
Although there are multiple options to manage the current situation but I feel you need to establish relationship back to previous level. Once this is done apply the behavioral intervention such as reinforcing positive behavior and ignoring negative behavior as far as possible. You need to understand that punishment have no role in bringing up child and it should be avoided as far as possible.
For current situation I feel you need to approach the child in presence of your wife and never alone (till things are better). In addition it is of utmost importance to take in confidence of your wife and significant others. Secondly try to contain your emotions and approach the child without taking in consideration of your previous experience with child. Additionally we need to understand that every child is different and having negative attitude to one child because you know some other child is smart (your granddaughter) generally affects your relationship negatively.
I hope this helps you.
If you have more questions feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards.
I think behavioral intervention can do better once the things are redone
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns.
Although there are multiple options to manage the current situation but I feel you need to establish relationship back to previous level. Once this is done apply the behavioral intervention such as reinforcing positive behavior and ignoring negative behavior as far as possible. You need to understand that punishment have no role in bringing up child and it should be avoided as far as possible.
For current situation I feel you need to approach the child in presence of your wife and never alone (till things are better). In addition it is of utmost importance to take in confidence of your wife and significant others. Secondly try to contain your emotions and approach the child without taking in consideration of your previous experience with child. Additionally we need to understand that every child is different and having negative attitude to one child because you know some other child is smart (your granddaughter) generally affects your relationship negatively.
I hope this helps you.
If you have more questions feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards.
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Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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