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Question : hello how you doung sir
i want to ask about my female friend she is so intellegent in her university and so fair and creative personality and loves to read about pyschoanalysis and very intellegent in analysising problems.
but as she read books on pyschoanalysis sometimes she think about her childhood and feels upset and nervous so much.
she says she lived as a lonely and happy daughter untill 7 . untill her mother get divorce with her father and married a bedouin man she falled in love with him as she says he is monster he was beating her mother while she was setting and she saw this and he cheated her with her friends and he have so many problems with women and he hates women he was closing the house door and locks it while they were lonely and cant go out because of his bedouin tradition women should set at house. and his bedouin society hates women like him he beats them he despise them .he had sex with her mother with despise way and while she was watching intentionlly too mamy times while she was 7 years... he was asking her questions while having sex and ask the girl to see this..
she also says her mother personality changed and it started to do a situation makes her feel so nervous those days more than her mother husband
she said she started to talk about sex with kids and her aunt son she started to touch his body i mean his penis while all the family there setting.. and she started to ask him question about if his penis grown up and get big or no? do you want me to cut your penis ? let me see your penis and touch? are you happy because you have a penis ? and always like that and also she said if her aunts' son did something wrong her mother brings a scissors and threaten him by cutting his penis. and always ask him if he loves his body because he have a penis ? and if he wants her to cut his penis?
as i see her she feels so bad and nervous about this situation who happened to her while child and she calls it racism about a woman body and genital which because they hate women and traditions which worship men body and men being .. and pyschological problems and she sees her self as a victim and feels so nervous and bad
she said the first time she saw her mother husband having sex with her mother roughly and while she was setting there she cried .and first time she saw her mother asking his aunts' son about if he want his penis to be cut or if he is happy with having a penis... she got shocked and surprised why she asks like that.. and like it was first time for her to see some things like that then she started to ask is a man penis is something so different and make him special not like females thats why my mother ask my aunts son these questions? no asking and doing this while im setting upset and shocks me as she said she started to feel surprised every time her mother do this and shocked in her age of 7
and untill now she feels so nervous and upset and she read about .
books talking about child pyschanalysis who hates women .body and genital
she need to go to pyschologist or dr to talk with?
and is her mother have pychological problems?
i want to ask about my female friend she is so intellegent in her university and so fair and creative personality and loves to read about pyschoanalysis and very intellegent in analysising problems.
but as she read books on pyschoanalysis sometimes she think about her childhood and feels upset and nervous so much.
she says she lived as a lonely and happy daughter untill 7 . untill her mother get divorce with her father and married a bedouin man she falled in love with him as she says he is monster he was beating her mother while she was setting and she saw this and he cheated her with her friends and he have so many problems with women and he hates women he was closing the house door and locks it while they were lonely and cant go out because of his bedouin tradition women should set at house. and his bedouin society hates women like him he beats them he despise them .he had sex with her mother with despise way and while she was watching intentionlly too mamy times while she was 7 years... he was asking her questions while having sex and ask the girl to see this..
she also says her mother personality changed and it started to do a situation makes her feel so nervous those days more than her mother husband
she said she started to talk about sex with kids and her aunt son she started to touch his body i mean his penis while all the family there setting.. and she started to ask him question about if his penis grown up and get big or no? do you want me to cut your penis ? let me see your penis and touch? are you happy because you have a penis ? and always like that and also she said if her aunts' son did something wrong her mother brings a scissors and threaten him by cutting his penis. and always ask him if he loves his body because he have a penis ? and if he wants her to cut his penis?
as i see her she feels so bad and nervous about this situation who happened to her while child and she calls it racism about a woman body and genital which because they hate women and traditions which worship men body and men being .. and pyschological problems and she sees her self as a victim and feels so nervous and bad
she said the first time she saw her mother husband having sex with her mother roughly and while she was setting there she cried .and first time she saw her mother asking his aunts' son about if he want his penis to be cut or if he is happy with having a penis... she got shocked and surprised why she asks like that.. and like it was first time for her to see some things like that then she started to ask is a man penis is something so different and make him special not like females thats why my mother ask my aunts son these questions? no asking and doing this while im setting upset and shocks me as she said she started to feel surprised every time her mother do this and shocked in her age of 7
and untill now she feels so nervous and upset and she read about .
books talking about child pyschanalysis who hates women .body and genital
she need to go to pyschologist or dr to talk with?
and is her mother have pychological problems?
Brief Answer:
Yes, she should; her mother does have more than one problem
Detailed Answer:
Hello ma'am and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. I would like to start by saying that I appreciate the care you have for your friend.
She has clearly suffered trauma during here childhood, and her curiosity to find answers to questions that no one answered for her is normal and may even help. The current diagnosis could currently be depression and/or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and yes, she can choose to approach a psychologist or a psychiatrist or a counsellor who should be able to help find her fears and fight them. She also requires support, which she cannot get from her family as her mother will not realise what harm she has done to her daughter.
You can also try to talk to her, and help understand her and listen to her, support her. But in my opinion, she needs to find happiness, may be go out and have fun. She will not agree to do this, and may be you need to support her for that. Many people have found happiness through a spouse or partner, and we need to help her understand how not all men are like the Bedouin men. We need to show her that there are good, kind, nice and loving men.
About her mother, I am unsure about what exactly her diagnosis is, but she certainly seems to be a dependant personality. There are various psychological problems, and personality disorders are also part of them. I think she became dependant on an abusive individual. There are many reasons why women choose to stay; some for the finances, some because they become emotionally dependant to the abuse, etc. Her mother would have most certainly suffered from depression due to all the abuse, but I assume there would be many other associated disorders as well.
It is not wrong for your friend to try to study psychoanalysis and try to understand what happened to her, let her go ahead, may be it will provide her with closure. But be supportive, caring, and listen to her when she needs you.
I hope you can help your friend over time, please understand that this is a slow and gradual process and please be patient with her. You can also ask her to write to me if she is interested, I would be more than happy to help.
Best wishes.
Yes, she should; her mother does have more than one problem
Detailed Answer:
Hello ma'am and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. I would like to start by saying that I appreciate the care you have for your friend.
She has clearly suffered trauma during here childhood, and her curiosity to find answers to questions that no one answered for her is normal and may even help. The current diagnosis could currently be depression and/or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and yes, she can choose to approach a psychologist or a psychiatrist or a counsellor who should be able to help find her fears and fight them. She also requires support, which she cannot get from her family as her mother will not realise what harm she has done to her daughter.
You can also try to talk to her, and help understand her and listen to her, support her. But in my opinion, she needs to find happiness, may be go out and have fun. She will not agree to do this, and may be you need to support her for that. Many people have found happiness through a spouse or partner, and we need to help her understand how not all men are like the Bedouin men. We need to show her that there are good, kind, nice and loving men.
About her mother, I am unsure about what exactly her diagnosis is, but she certainly seems to be a dependant personality. There are various psychological problems, and personality disorders are also part of them. I think she became dependant on an abusive individual. There are many reasons why women choose to stay; some for the finances, some because they become emotionally dependant to the abuse, etc. Her mother would have most certainly suffered from depression due to all the abuse, but I assume there would be many other associated disorders as well.
It is not wrong for your friend to try to study psychoanalysis and try to understand what happened to her, let her go ahead, may be it will provide her with closure. But be supportive, caring, and listen to her when she needs you.
I hope you can help your friend over time, please understand that this is a slow and gradual process and please be patient with her. You can also ask her to write to me if she is interested, I would be more than happy to help.
Best wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
thank you sir... about my friend i think she dont have depression or any disorders she go out and have fun go to cinema she also has a boyfriend and she loves to go shopping and enjoy her studies i told you she is smart and fair.. but although all this she feels sadness and nervous from her childhood. sometimes she cries and feels she is a victim and sometimes do not concentrate and think with her self and remember the past. she also told me she imagine talking to someone she loves so much and tellimg him her childhoos problems and usually the man she loves but she doesnt talk with him in her real life about this .she have the feeling that she is a victim and she imagine talking to someone she loves so much and telling him her childhood stories .about her mother she got divorce from her husband when the girl is at 11 ... her husband left her and cheated her with her aunt daughter and her best friend.. but since she got divorce she is so angry woman everything is negative in her eyes and she is so evilish and always angry. regarding to her mother 1=do depression leads her to abuse kids or as i call it racism against women?2= and is it normal to my friend to get shocked for what happened to her or its penis envy? 3=the books she read in pyshoanalysis i feel it harms her because all about is frued theoris and sex children theoris not about sexual abuse
Brief Answer:
1. yes; 2. yes of course; 3. she should find the right books
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again ma'am.
1. Yes, depression can lead to abusing your children or 'sexism' (which is the correct term)
2. Yes, of course it is normal for your friend to be shocked for what happened to her, and to develop a fear for the penis
3. She needs to read the right books, not ones that are off the topic. If she reads a book on sexual abuse then may be it can even help her
Please do not hesitate to write to me for any further help ma'am, I am always here to help.
Best wishes.
1. yes; 2. yes of course; 3. she should find the right books
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again ma'am.
1. Yes, depression can lead to abusing your children or 'sexism' (which is the correct term)
2. Yes, of course it is normal for your friend to be shocked for what happened to her, and to develop a fear for the penis
3. She needs to read the right books, not ones that are off the topic. If she reads a book on sexual abuse then may be it can even help her
Please do not hesitate to write to me for any further help ma'am, I am always here to help.
Best wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
hello sir how you doing? thank you very much for your help.... i will advise my friend to go to a dr 2-develop a fear for a penis? my friend is straight in her relationship and sometimes i feel she is sex addict but she enjoys her sexual feelings so much but yes is sametime i feel she has big fear and nervous from this actions so what does penis fear means?3- if she has a depression from sexual abuse whats the difference between this and when pychiatrist says depression is genitics and nothing relationship with childhood or any social problems
Brief Answer:
My sincere apologies for the delay ma'am
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again ma'am.
My sincere apologies for the delayed response, had some family commitments, please forgive me.
Fear for the penis could be various things:
+Psychological fear of the male penis
+The fear for the penis in females can even make the feeling of penetration painful (dyspareunia)
+It can also result in a condition called vaginismus (closing of the walls of the entrance of the vagina)
and a few others things.
But the fear in your friend is mainly due to the poor feeling she has for the male individual caused by the acts of aggression and poor behaviour of the person her mother was with after her father. This can in some females even lead to homosexual behaviour, and I am happy your friend has not shown such behaviour.
The difference between the two types of depression is:
+Genetic or childhood depression is due to an imbalance in chemicals in the brain that help balance and maintain moods between happiness and sadness. When there is an imbalance this can lead to depression, mania, etc.
+Depression developed during life: This is due to unfortunate events in life, sadness, loss, etc; which is not necessarily due to an initial imbalance in chemicals in the brain, but can result in an imbalance; but this imbalance is due to life events
I hope this is clear and I hope I have explained things in a manner best understood by you. Please forgive me once again for the delay in the response.
Best wishes.
My sincere apologies for the delay ma'am
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again ma'am.
My sincere apologies for the delayed response, had some family commitments, please forgive me.
Fear for the penis could be various things:
+Psychological fear of the male penis
+The fear for the penis in females can even make the feeling of penetration painful (dyspareunia)
+It can also result in a condition called vaginismus (closing of the walls of the entrance of the vagina)
and a few others things.
But the fear in your friend is mainly due to the poor feeling she has for the male individual caused by the acts of aggression and poor behaviour of the person her mother was with after her father. This can in some females even lead to homosexual behaviour, and I am happy your friend has not shown such behaviour.
The difference between the two types of depression is:
+Genetic or childhood depression is due to an imbalance in chemicals in the brain that help balance and maintain moods between happiness and sadness. When there is an imbalance this can lead to depression, mania, etc.
+Depression developed during life: This is due to unfortunate events in life, sadness, loss, etc; which is not necessarily due to an initial imbalance in chemicals in the brain, but can result in an imbalance; but this imbalance is due to life events
I hope this is clear and I hope I have explained things in a manner best understood by you. Please forgive me once again for the delay in the response.
Best wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
iam not sure. i see her problems too being nervous and upset from the action itself not the man parts and blaming so much second from time to time she dont concentrate and imagine a friend talking to and expressing her feelings and do nothing from her work and this happens from time to time but sometimes isnt good for her studies .but she enjoys her sexual feelings and releasing her emotions ..she has the willing of man body or man parts and she enjoys oral sex but she didnt try penetration. here we try to be virgin untill marrige. but sometimes i see her feelings developed and is willing to try penetration as she loves her man, do you mean penetration painfuvl is a feelings she hates the penetration action it self before it enters or she may be willing for penetration and ask for but when she tries she will feel pain? . she is sex addict as i think and thia is a problem . so i think she dont have penis fear because she enjoys loving man parts in her sexual life. do you think she have a penis fear although she is enjoying oral sex and man parts?
Brief Answer:
I do not think she will have a problem with sexual penetration
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX.
Enjoying the male penis and oral sexual contact isa good sign, and I doubt she will have trouble with penetration. Of course, the first few times penetration takes place it may be a little painful, but it will be more pleasurable as time passes.
We cannot yet call her a 'sex addict' because she has not yet enjoyed penile penetration. If she cannot stop herself from enjoying penile penetration and can go to any lengths (even have sex with random people), then this person can be categorised as a 'sex addict'.
Your friend is not a sex addict, but does seem to think a lot about the opposite sex and some times even feels like wanting to have penetrative sexual intercourse. All this is normal XXXX, and os just the hormones in play, nothing too serious, trust me.
I do not think she will have any issues with sexual penetration and most certainly will not have the fear of the penis. She has issues with the past events and that depresses her, but I am sure it has not scarred her. She can go on to live a perfectly normal life, I am hoping and guessing. :)
Best wishes.
I do not think she will have a problem with sexual penetration
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX.
Enjoying the male penis and oral sexual contact isa good sign, and I doubt she will have trouble with penetration. Of course, the first few times penetration takes place it may be a little painful, but it will be more pleasurable as time passes.
We cannot yet call her a 'sex addict' because she has not yet enjoyed penile penetration. If she cannot stop herself from enjoying penile penetration and can go to any lengths (even have sex with random people), then this person can be categorised as a 'sex addict'.
Your friend is not a sex addict, but does seem to think a lot about the opposite sex and some times even feels like wanting to have penetrative sexual intercourse. All this is normal XXXX, and os just the hormones in play, nothing too serious, trust me.
I do not think she will have any issues with sexual penetration and most certainly will not have the fear of the penis. She has issues with the past events and that depresses her, but I am sure it has not scarred her. She can go on to live a perfectly normal life, I am hoping and guessing. :)
Best wishes.
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