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Question: Hi doctor, I have been masturbating since 15 years, i cannot masturbate normally, i only use prone masturbation, now i am not able to sustain an erection, during the intercourse i am aroused and penis is erect, but during penetration it becomes flaccid, can you please help as this thing has become very frustating.
Brief Answer:
Anxiety and stress are the commonest reasons.
Detailed Answer:
Hi.
Thanks for your query and an elucidate history.
I would have been happy to get further details, please provide so that I can help you more.:
Your age?
Since when are you active sexually ? Married ?
Since when have you started having this problem ?
Do you have any medical problems in the past or at the moment or you are taking any medication ?
If there is normal erection, it indicates that this is not a ED (Erectile dysfunction).
The erect penis getting flaccid at penetration has the following problems:
- Anxiety of performance
- Any medical condition which has weakened you physically and / or mentally.
- Medications : Some medicines can cause such problems
- Stress / tensions / work-load
- Disparity with partner
- Frustrations : once they occur, one can loose the confidence.
I hope this answer help you to find an answer.
Please feel free if you have to add on anything, and give the feedback about the questions I have asked. You may please add any information where the discussion can be fruitful for us to get a probable diagnosis and proper treatment.
Anxiety and stress are the commonest reasons.
Detailed Answer:
Hi.
Thanks for your query and an elucidate history.
I would have been happy to get further details, please provide so that I can help you more.:
Your age?
Since when are you active sexually ? Married ?
Since when have you started having this problem ?
Do you have any medical problems in the past or at the moment or you are taking any medication ?
If there is normal erection, it indicates that this is not a ED (Erectile dysfunction).
The erect penis getting flaccid at penetration has the following problems:
- Anxiety of performance
- Any medical condition which has weakened you physically and / or mentally.
- Medications : Some medicines can cause such problems
- Stress / tensions / work-load
- Disparity with partner
- Frustrations : once they occur, one can loose the confidence.
I hope this answer help you to find an answer.
Please feel free if you have to add on anything, and give the feedback about the questions I have asked. You may please add any information where the discussion can be fruitful for us to get a probable diagnosis and proper treatment.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Hi Doctor,
I am married since 2 months and not taking any medication, but before my marriage i used to get erect by myself , only since these 2-3 days i am not able to sustain an erection, am i suffering from harmful effects of prone masturbation, i also wanted to ask whether taking health supplements like aswgandha or using vacuum pump will help, can you please guide me to get to my normal sexual life?
I am married since 2 months and not taking any medication, but before my marriage i used to get erect by myself , only since these 2-3 days i am not able to sustain an erection, am i suffering from harmful effects of prone masturbation, i also wanted to ask whether taking health supplements like aswgandha or using vacuum pump will help, can you please guide me to get to my normal sexual life?
Brief Answer:
This is not effect of Masturbation, no need of supplements at the moment.
Detailed Answer:
Hi.
Thanks for your feedback.
Read and understood the history: married 2 months - no medication - unable to sustain an erection only for the last 2 to 3 days -
As per your history you are not able to sustain an erection only for the last 2 to 3 days. I take this as you were alright 4 days back and before that also.
Let me assure that this has nothing to do with your masturbation habit at all.
If you had normal sexual activity before, you practically do not need any Ashwgandha or Vacuum pump. you should try such things at the moment, or the else you will need these throughout your life.
You are young and the reasons for your problems has already been mentioned by me in the first answer.
The more you think about it, it will have negative effects on your sexual performance. Forget about it at the moment.
When you go home have relaxed life, keep the mind at one job at a time.
Have great dinner, roam around, have good foreplay or indulge in any activity that you and your wife like the most, do not rush for sex. Do the sex only if you are sure that you are free of all worries, tensions and anxiety and see you will be a different person than before.
Most of the sex is in the brain and at the spinal level, the actual part at the penis and vagina are just a small part of the actual sex. I hope you are getting my point.
So just chill, now read this and stop thing about sex till you are in the bedroom.
Open this topic in the mind then only- do not rush through, take time and everything will be far better than before.
Please give me the feedback .
This is not effect of Masturbation, no need of supplements at the moment.
Detailed Answer:
Hi.
Thanks for your feedback.
Read and understood the history: married 2 months - no medication - unable to sustain an erection only for the last 2 to 3 days -
As per your history you are not able to sustain an erection only for the last 2 to 3 days. I take this as you were alright 4 days back and before that also.
Let me assure that this has nothing to do with your masturbation habit at all.
If you had normal sexual activity before, you practically do not need any Ashwgandha or Vacuum pump. you should try such things at the moment, or the else you will need these throughout your life.
You are young and the reasons for your problems has already been mentioned by me in the first answer.
The more you think about it, it will have negative effects on your sexual performance. Forget about it at the moment.
When you go home have relaxed life, keep the mind at one job at a time.
Have great dinner, roam around, have good foreplay or indulge in any activity that you and your wife like the most, do not rush for sex. Do the sex only if you are sure that you are free of all worries, tensions and anxiety and see you will be a different person than before.
Most of the sex is in the brain and at the spinal level, the actual part at the penis and vagina are just a small part of the actual sex. I hope you are getting my point.
So just chill, now read this and stop thing about sex till you are in the bedroom.
Open this topic in the mind then only- do not rush through, take time and everything will be far better than before.
Please give me the feedback .
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Hi Doctor,
I followed your advice and everything was great until yesterday night, I got an erection quickly but lost it more quickly also i noticed that when my penis is fully erect and after i insert it, it loses height. Since yesterday night, my penis gets erect but before putting the condom it loses the erection, my partner is getting frustrated due to this and me to. Do you think there is cure for this? I just want to enjoy like normal people. Should i go to urologist?
I followed your advice and everything was great until yesterday night, I got an erection quickly but lost it more quickly also i noticed that when my penis is fully erect and after i insert it, it loses height. Since yesterday night, my penis gets erect but before putting the condom it loses the erection, my partner is getting frustrated due to this and me to. Do you think there is cure for this? I just want to enjoy like normal people. Should i go to urologist?
Brief Answer:
Keep away the anxiety / Consult an Urologist too.
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX
As we discussed, this looks to be related to the anxiety only.
Since the penis is getting erected fully there is no major worry. This is the sign that there is no erectile dysfunction.
It looks for some or the other reasons your concentration is getting swayed and that directly affects the maintenance of the erection, such as an act of putting on condom.
Have proper foreplay, spend quality time together without any interruptions, get fully involved into the activity and there will be positive changes.
You will remember and agree that the erection, sex and all the related activity would have been the best in the past whenever you were fully involved and had nothing on mind.
You may also agree that some sort of any other thought entered into mind during the foreplay or during the actual act would just affect the erection.
Sure, as this is the most important part of life you may please consult an Urologist. Take your wife with you. Counselling may need both of you to be there.
Keep away the anxiety / Consult an Urologist too.
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX
As we discussed, this looks to be related to the anxiety only.
Since the penis is getting erected fully there is no major worry. This is the sign that there is no erectile dysfunction.
It looks for some or the other reasons your concentration is getting swayed and that directly affects the maintenance of the erection, such as an act of putting on condom.
Have proper foreplay, spend quality time together without any interruptions, get fully involved into the activity and there will be positive changes.
You will remember and agree that the erection, sex and all the related activity would have been the best in the past whenever you were fully involved and had nothing on mind.
You may also agree that some sort of any other thought entered into mind during the foreplay or during the actual act would just affect the erection.
Sure, as this is the most important part of life you may please consult an Urologist. Take your wife with you. Counselling may need both of you to be there.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
hi doctor,
As i mentioned earlier, I also did prone masturbation (TMS) for long time, so is there a way to learn how to masturbate normally as i read about its side effects on the net. I am sorry I am very embarrassed that i had to ask this question?
As i mentioned earlier, I also did prone masturbation (TMS) for long time, so is there a way to learn how to masturbate normally as i read about its side effects on the net. I am sorry I am very embarrassed that i had to ask this question?
Brief Answer:
Pl give feedback about specific questions
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for your feedback.
I would like to ask a specific questions:
-How was the sexual experience last week ? Was there a single sexual mating where there was no problem and both of you enjoyed equally and nicely without any hindrance ?
- Since you are married for 2 months, you might have many sexual interactions till now. Do you remember any one that has no problems at all ?
- Have you read too much on the internet about the topics ? This might have affected your understanding the other way, meaning you might have read more of negative articles. Internet is most of the times creating more confusions than really giving the authenticated information.
Masturbation, sex and such activities are very personal activities and nothing is found to be causing any sort of problem unless it was traumatic.
Most of the knowledge one acquires about the sex is from self experience, reading some books, talking to friends who are equally ignorant and now-a-days the internet; but most of the times getting the wrong or unauthenticated information.
Prone masturbation:
You did it for a long time. Was it painful for you ?
Was there any other problem while doing masturbation in prone position or after the act?
TMS is Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome:
Did you have any trauma?
Since you are just married , just stop thinking about masturbation as now you have a sex partner that too a wife- with who you can confide, discuss, sort out any problems you have.
since this is just 2 months, you both would still be in an adjustment mode.
Take a bit time for the sexual understanding and mutuality, understanding each others requirement and needs.
Why do you want to do masturbation now ?
Why do you want to read on internet ?
Please give feedback for us to continue discussion.
You can talk to me if you like. For that you have to call the office of Ebix / Healthcaremagic 0000 and they can connect us.
Pl give feedback about specific questions
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for your feedback.
I would like to ask a specific questions:
-How was the sexual experience last week ? Was there a single sexual mating where there was no problem and both of you enjoyed equally and nicely without any hindrance ?
- Since you are married for 2 months, you might have many sexual interactions till now. Do you remember any one that has no problems at all ?
- Have you read too much on the internet about the topics ? This might have affected your understanding the other way, meaning you might have read more of negative articles. Internet is most of the times creating more confusions than really giving the authenticated information.
Masturbation, sex and such activities are very personal activities and nothing is found to be causing any sort of problem unless it was traumatic.
Most of the knowledge one acquires about the sex is from self experience, reading some books, talking to friends who are equally ignorant and now-a-days the internet; but most of the times getting the wrong or unauthenticated information.
Prone masturbation:
You did it for a long time. Was it painful for you ?
Was there any other problem while doing masturbation in prone position or after the act?
TMS is Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome:
Did you have any trauma?
Since you are just married , just stop thinking about masturbation as now you have a sex partner that too a wife- with who you can confide, discuss, sort out any problems you have.
since this is just 2 months, you both would still be in an adjustment mode.
Take a bit time for the sexual understanding and mutuality, understanding each others requirement and needs.
Why do you want to do masturbation now ?
Why do you want to read on internet ?
Please give feedback for us to continue discussion.
You can talk to me if you like. For that you have to call the office of Ebix / Healthcaremagic 0000 and they can connect us.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Hi doctor,
First I would like to thank you for your support and quick response.
Here are the required details
How was the sexual experience last week ?
-> i mean a day before we had sex and enjoyed a lot but it lasted for 3-4 mins and then again for 2 mins, but i still had doubts whether i was able to penetrate fully or not.
Was there a single sexual mating where there was no problem and both of you enjoyed equally and nicely without any hindrance ?
Yes, it was 25-30 days back and there have been quite a few meetings when we had sex spontaneously.
Since you are married for 2 months, you might have many sexual interactions till now. Do you remember any one that has no problems at all ?
We have daily, 50% of the time we have no problems
Have you read too much on the internet about the topics ?
Yes
You did it for a long time. Was it painful for you ?
No
Was there any other problem while doing masturbation in prone position or after the act?
not until recently, when i cannot get erect using normal methods
Did you have any trauma?
no
I hope I have answered all the questions, thanks again doctor
First I would like to thank you for your support and quick response.
Here are the required details
How was the sexual experience last week ?
-> i mean a day before we had sex and enjoyed a lot but it lasted for 3-4 mins and then again for 2 mins, but i still had doubts whether i was able to penetrate fully or not.
Was there a single sexual mating where there was no problem and both of you enjoyed equally and nicely without any hindrance ?
Yes, it was 25-30 days back and there have been quite a few meetings when we had sex spontaneously.
Since you are married for 2 months, you might have many sexual interactions till now. Do you remember any one that has no problems at all ?
We have daily, 50% of the time we have no problems
Have you read too much on the internet about the topics ?
Yes
You did it for a long time. Was it painful for you ?
No
Was there any other problem while doing masturbation in prone position or after the act?
not until recently, when i cannot get erect using normal methods
Did you have any trauma?
no
I hope I have answered all the questions, thanks again doctor
Brief Answer:
Your feedback says you are absolutely normal.
Detailed Answer:
You are most welcome.
Thanks a lot for a detailed and positive feedback.
All your answers make me think that you have no such problems for which you have to worry so must.
Even a single sexual act which was fulfilling indicates that you are , in fact you both are absolutely normal.
Small problems like you felt last time, even a small pinch while putting on the condom, a stray thought which should not have come, anxiety of performance.
Dear friend, just stop worrying, stop reading anything on internet related to this material. With time everything finds a proper way. You are just married and now the sex is as an appetite, over the time you both will have one of the best sexual understanding and practically there will be no problems.
Simple fundamental is : give 100 per cent involvement in any of the activity you are doing during that time.
I hope this helps. \If you still feel so, get a counselling and consultation of an Urologist.
Your feedback says you are absolutely normal.
Detailed Answer:
You are most welcome.
Thanks a lot for a detailed and positive feedback.
All your answers make me think that you have no such problems for which you have to worry so must.
Even a single sexual act which was fulfilling indicates that you are , in fact you both are absolutely normal.
Small problems like you felt last time, even a small pinch while putting on the condom, a stray thought which should not have come, anxiety of performance.
Dear friend, just stop worrying, stop reading anything on internet related to this material. With time everything finds a proper way. You are just married and now the sex is as an appetite, over the time you both will have one of the best sexual understanding and practically there will be no problems.
Simple fundamental is : give 100 per cent involvement in any of the activity you are doing during that time.
I hope this helps. \If you still feel so, get a counselling and consultation of an Urologist.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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