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Posted on
Tue, 10 May 2016
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Tue, 10 May 2016
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Tue, 21 Jun 2016
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Question : I am going through rough phase of marriage.
I am almost married for 5 years now and my partner is short tempered and we hardly have any fruitful communication just I avoid getting into argument as it will result in making her angry. She is stressed due to career problems and I am one to be blamed for everything in her life and now she continuously blames me day and night , which is impacting me and I am getting less patient , more negative. I need professional help. Please advise
I am almost married for 5 years now and my partner is short tempered and we hardly have any fruitful communication just I avoid getting into argument as it will result in making her angry. She is stressed due to career problems and I am one to be blamed for everything in her life and now she continuously blames me day and night , which is impacting me and I am getting less patient , more negative. I need professional help. Please advise
Brief Answer:
Spend time together.
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Welcome to HCM.
I can understand your concerns.
I think stress is taking toll on her. You are blamed because you are the only one she has, on whom she can blurt out.
It is important that you and her take a break from your routine life and spend some quality time together.
Please let me know, whether she has history of any Psychiatric problem in past?
I understand that her behavior can generate negativity in you. But then, aggression and negativity create more aggression and negative feelings.
Your one positive reply to her can lift her mood and calm her down.
Say for example, if she blames you for her failure, you can tell her that you are sorry for it (even if you are not at fault) and assure that you both can find ways to improve further.
Similarly, you can XXXXXXX her with little gifts. Likewise, you can find ways to keep her and yourself happy.
If she feels happy, you will also feel good.
Usually, the people are not at fault in a disturbed relationship, but the circumstances are not favorable sometimes.
Hope this helps.
Feel free to ask further.
Thanks.
Spend time together.
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Welcome to HCM.
I can understand your concerns.
I think stress is taking toll on her. You are blamed because you are the only one she has, on whom she can blurt out.
It is important that you and her take a break from your routine life and spend some quality time together.
Please let me know, whether she has history of any Psychiatric problem in past?
I understand that her behavior can generate negativity in you. But then, aggression and negativity create more aggression and negative feelings.
Your one positive reply to her can lift her mood and calm her down.
Say for example, if she blames you for her failure, you can tell her that you are sorry for it (even if you are not at fault) and assure that you both can find ways to improve further.
Similarly, you can XXXXXXX her with little gifts. Likewise, you can find ways to keep her and yourself happy.
If she feels happy, you will also feel good.
Usually, the people are not at fault in a disturbed relationship, but the circumstances are not favorable sometimes.
Hope this helps.
Feel free to ask further.
Thanks.
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