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Hi XXXX,
Thanks for writing in to us.

I have read through your query in detail.
It appears that you have a certain confusion about sex and coitus and its practice in the present days.

Since centuries, sex has been one of the most sacred activities between two consenting adults. Being so it is a source of bonding and also provides mutual pleasure to both partners. Sex is also important for the birth of progeny and progression of human civilization.

In the divine rite to hedonism, pleasure was considered the foremost. However now days and in present times, sex is more about sharing, caring, loving and having mutual respect between partners with pleasure also being important.

It is more like giving and taking. In your case, you have written that meeting a good girl for a sexual relationship seems to elude you. Please correct me if I am wrong but I understand that you are having problem approaching girls. Not being able to get a girl who you feel is appropriate for you might be causing you frustration. This can be avoided by keeping your mind open and relaxing your criteria of finding potential partners and then approaching them.

When looking for a partner, it is also important not to talk or think about sex at first. Try to know the personality of the other person and see if you both can click. Have some casual exchange of talks and then you will know if she is really interested in you. A sexual relationship can happen only if both partners express interest and this has to slowly develop if you are considering to have her as a life partner.

A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. As you are making efforts to take care of your health, your confidence level will also get better. This will help you to introduce yourself in the best way when searching for a partner.

I would like to know where exactly you have confusion in understanding sex and coitus. Will be glad to clear your doubts after hearing from you.

Hope this answers your question. Please feel free to correct any oversight in my interpretation of your problems and discuss them in detail as per your requirements.

Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any doubts.

Regards,
Dr.Vivek

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Hi XXXX,
Thanks for writing back with an update.

The facts mentioned by you hold good to a certain extent. In a J shaped population growth cure, there is an ever increasing rise in population in an exponential or logarithmic form but this has to stop when such a favorable situation ceases to occur or the seasonal factors subside. With the increase in population density, more people find themselves in situations where there is a lot of cultural mixing and dilution of exotic, mystique, and allure of multicultural influences.

At the same time realization of this situation by a few people will not make much difference in the continuity and proliferation of illusionary sex appeal as you call it. People are always seeking pleasure and there is no end to desire. This behavior is however spread across society and with industrial revolution and globalization there is a pool that has taken birth and with it comes compromise in the natural way of doing things.

There is something called wisdom and each of us are born with various degrees of wisdom. We have to carefully use our wisdom in thinking what is right and wrong for us. We have to differentiate between needs and wants. Regarding sex appeal, it is very difficult to find trust and faith in sexual relationships. It is more of a mutual compromise between partners to coexist in harmony and money is the biggest form of security perceived by most women. In this context, it might be difficult to choose an appropriate partner but with the correct thoughts and wisdom it is something achievable for you.

There is no need to rush for a partner but take a deep breath and write down the must be, can be, and need not be features you would like to have in your partner. Keeping this in mind you can have a random check list of criteria and how to judge probable partner without spending much time and energy. Please remember that you too require a partner some day and you will get her. However due to the current situation in the world, where people are after pleasure and have forgotten natural inherent human behavior, it might take you some time to find your special someone.

Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any doubts.

Regards,
Dr.Vivek

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