Brief Answer:
Please clarify your question

Detailed Answer:
Hello Mr. XXXXXXX

I understood form your question: You get erection only when you think about female or female related things only.
It is absolutely normal that male gets erection when he thinks about female or things related to female.

But I feel you want to say/ask something else. If I could not understand your question, please clarify your question with details.
You have also visited doctor and tried medicines. Please provide details of that also.

Waiting for your reply,

Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.

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Brief Answer:
Possibility of Sexual Masochism Disorder, need to consult a psychiatrist

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXXXX

Thanks for clarification. I got your question.

From your history possibility is there that you may have Sexual Masochism Disorder.

Sexual Masochism Disorder is defined as recurrent and intense sexual arousal from the act of being humiliated, beaten, bound or made to suffer.
It is manifested by fantasies, urges or behaviours.
These fantasies and behaviour cause significant impairment in social, occupational or other areas of life.

For diagnosis, detail history and mental status examination are required by a psychiatrist.

From above explanation, please provide more details regarding your problem which you feel is important.

Also let me know,

Since when are you having such problem?
The example you described above is fantasy. Do you have such fantasies always or sometime does this happen in reality?
Are you married?
How is your sexual life? Do you get erection normally during sex or masturbation?
What is advised by doctor?

Hope I have answered your query. I will be happy to help further.

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Brief Answer:
It can be treated with psychotherapy and behaviour therapy

Detailed Answer:
Hello thanks for writing back.

Sorry for delayed response.

There is no need for separation until your wife think so.
You are still young and if you sought for therapy, you can be treated.

If you are able to satisfy your wife in sex, able to produce child and able to run all responsibilities as husband, there is no need of separation.

If your wife is not aware about this problem, it is your decision that she should be informed or not.

In treatment her help may be needed. It can be decided after you meet psychiatrist personally and discuss your problem.

Psychoanalysis, hypnosis, behavior therapy, cognitive therapy, drug therapy are modalities of treatment.

Behavior therapy is often used to treat such problem.This can include management and conditioning of arousal patterns and masturbation. Therapy involving cognitive restructuring is also utilized.

Medication is also used to reduce fantasies.This is especially true of people who exhibit severely dangerous masochistic behaviors.But in your case I think it is not needed at all.

It will take weeks,months or may be years to come out of this problem completely considering long duration of it.However early you begin the therapy ,early the results.In your case I think it is matter of months only.

All the best.

Dr.Chintan Solanki.

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Brief Answer:
It is positive point that your wife is aware

Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX

Thanks for question.


If your wife is aware about the problem and still you are both together it is good thing.You just need to consult psychiatrist with your wife and with help of counseling,psychotherapy and behavior therapy you can come out of your problem.

Licking vagina is an important aspect of foreplay.If your wife likes licking you should go for it.
Licking can be good if your wife is healthy and maintain good hygiene around vagina and no infection.Normal secretion during foreplay is common which may go in to your mouth while licking.You may apply chocolate sauce over there and can lick to enjoy.Or you may put a thin soft latex over vagina. It will prevent the direct contact to vagina but at same time give pleasure to your wife.

Every time ask your wife to clean privates part with mild soap before and after sex.

Hope I have answered your query.
If still any query there, I will be happy to answer.
If not, you can close the discussion and give your feedback which can help me to improve service.

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