Suggest Treatment For Tightness Of Vagina
there are 2 problems which i need to be addressed
My foreplay and fingering are all fine, but I feel her vagina is too tight to insert my penis.
and secondary attempting to insert I ejaculate early .
Relax, you will succeed,use lubricant if needed
Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXX,
Thanks for writing to us.
Congratulations for marriage.
Many couple like you face some problem or difficulty during sex initially after marriage. It may take 1 week to 2 months in general until their sexual life becomes comfortable.
First problem is tightness of vagina.
This happen in many females. This may be vaginismus. For that you should discuss with your wife. Does she have any fear of pain or something else when you insert penis? She should be counseled for the same.Initially 2-3 times until hymen completely broken she may feel pain but as time passes she would not have any pain or pain will be enjoyable.
Try to spend more time in foreplay to make her arouse. During foreplay she may feel some secretion in vagina which is there for lubrication. After that if you will insert penis it will be easy.She should be relaxed so her pelvic muscles remain relax and no vaginal tightness.If you can insert finger than penis also can be inserted.Start with little finger and then ring and middle finger. Later on if no pain, insert two fingers. By this manner you can relax her.
If there is dryness in vagina, you can use KY jelly lubricant just before sex. It is non toxic and safe.
Just discuss this issue with her and if any query let me know.
Second problem is ejaculation occurs early.
If male ejaculates so early before female reaches orgasm it is called premature ejaculation.
Initially after marriage due to excitement it happens and normal.No specific treatment is needed. Gradually your sensitivity comes under control and you will be able to do sex for long.
However if still problem persists two approaches are useful.
One is change/modification in sex techniques. You can use Stop and Start and Squeeze techniques.
If you can do masturbation on the same day at least before 2 hours of sex, ejaculation time during sex will automatically increase.
Second option is use of medicines like clomipramine, paroxetine or depoxetine.
In conclusion give yourself and your wife sometime to set in sexual life at least 3-4 weeks more. If problem still persists, you can consult sexologist/psychiatrist for evaluation and treatment.
Hope I have answered your query, I will be happy to help further.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.