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Question: Hi.. I am writing about my 9 year old son. For about 9 months ago,he has started with horrible fits of rage. He gets so angry,he makes fist's and is in such a rage. He trys to hurt me..kicking,punching,trying to trip me etc. He is usually a happy,fun,loving boy. Then it's like a switch is turned on. I tell him after dinner,it will be shower then brushing teeth. So now dinner is over and I say OK time for shower...he SCREAMS NO! And the night is full of anger and anxiety. I might say that his father lives apart from us. Casen ( my son) sees him most weekends and usually spends Saturday night with his dad. This weekend he only saw Casen for maybe a hour. Casen has told me over and over again that he wants us to live as a family. Unfortunately XXXXXXX ( my husband) likes his new found freedom life...friends and females all the time. I stress that no female should be coming over late or middle of the night. Casen is confused and I can understand why.
Please help me help my son. I am at a total loss as what to do. Thank you in advance for your time
Sincerely, XXXXXXX
Please help me help my son. I am at a total loss as what to do. Thank you in advance for your time
Sincerely, XXXXXXX
Brief Answer:
I think there are many things to do here
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns.
Although I have just fraction of information but I feel following thing should be done on priority.
1. Firstly discuss these rage fits with your husband. Stress that it is important to devote enough time for care of Casen specially when he is together. Even on the week days ask him to contact Casen on frequent intervals and understand his frustration.
2. Second as you suggested there should not be two mothers for the child. Stress again to your husband that female friend should refrain from visiting when Casen and XXXXXXX are together.
3. Thirdly please reinforce his positive behavior. We generally forget to reward child at interval and that makes difficult for the child. As we know most of the time child behaves normal so try to keep his confidence by saying pleasant things about his pleasant behavior, allowing him to see his favorite show, allowing him to play with his close friends. Please remember that reward should not be as rule and they should be random as far as possible.
4. Never criticize your child in front of others. Please stop it if it is a practice in your house.
5. Talk to your child when the fit of rage is over. Ask calmly what went wrong with him. This will give you more insight in deeper problem.
6. Seek a professional counselor help in your city. This is again important as he is having these symptoms for last 9 months and it should be taken lightly.
I hope this assists you.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for my future patients.
In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386
Thanks and regards.
I think there are many things to do here
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns.
Although I have just fraction of information but I feel following thing should be done on priority.
1. Firstly discuss these rage fits with your husband. Stress that it is important to devote enough time for care of Casen specially when he is together. Even on the week days ask him to contact Casen on frequent intervals and understand his frustration.
2. Second as you suggested there should not be two mothers for the child. Stress again to your husband that female friend should refrain from visiting when Casen and XXXXXXX are together.
3. Thirdly please reinforce his positive behavior. We generally forget to reward child at interval and that makes difficult for the child. As we know most of the time child behaves normal so try to keep his confidence by saying pleasant things about his pleasant behavior, allowing him to see his favorite show, allowing him to play with his close friends. Please remember that reward should not be as rule and they should be random as far as possible.
4. Never criticize your child in front of others. Please stop it if it is a practice in your house.
5. Talk to your child when the fit of rage is over. Ask calmly what went wrong with him. This will give you more insight in deeper problem.
6. Seek a professional counselor help in your city. This is again important as he is having these symptoms for last 9 months and it should be taken lightly.
I hope this assists you.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for my future patients.
In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386
Thanks and regards.
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