Suggest Ways To Deal With A Broken Relationship

Posted on Mon, 12 Sep 2016

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Question : Hi. I have a long story that has resulted me feeling so much stress now that I've come to realize what my girlfriend is. I've been with my girlfriend for 11 years now with a 5 year and a 1 year old. I had never gotten the desire to completely satisfy my her. she had cried during sex because she was confused with who she wanted so I got her pregnant with our first child I guess to trap her. I gave her the green light to sleep with other men as long as I didn't know or hear about it. I had to find a job and have a been at the same place with never taking time off for my to connect with my family for 6 years now. I had got addicted to porn and master bated more then having sex with her because she never acted like she wanted it and stop trying to teach me how to completely satisfy her and I suppose I had forgotten what was going on with her. I spent a year and a half on the couch as the emotional attachment was fading as I usually never wanted the emotional sexually connection bedroom being so selfish. it's my brother, my friends, my friends friends, even my boss. her and my boss basically talk to me in the same way. Hey leaves during the day when I know she the loneliness. I need stress leave from work so I can be there for her to communicate as to why she still does what she does and hope she's not too in love with being who she is that I want so bad just for me.

Answered by Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (3 hours later)

Brief Answer:
couple counseling is needed

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

Thanks for writing to us.

You have narrated long story but I may not get that what help actually you want from our side. Please clarify if you cannot find enough guidance in answer.

You have disturbed relationship with your girlfriend.Your sex life was not ok and she probably does not like to be with you as she should be. She is likely involved with others. This I could get it from your story.

You seem to be in too much stress. I recommend couple counseling to smooth your relationship. You can get leave if you are suffering from major depressive disorder.

- Sad mood, lack of interest in routine/pleasurable activities, weeping/crying spells, hopelessness, reduce appetite, excessive fatigue or weakness, lack of concentration, sleep disturbances, death wishes, suicidal ideas : among these symptoms which are there in your case and since when? Please narrate briefly so I can guide you further about your mental health and possibility of depression.

Hope I have answered your query, I will be happy to help further.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Nagamani Ng