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Suggest Ways To Deal With A Paranoid Schizophrenia Person
Question: I am very angry and frustrated today about XXXXXXX and my life in general...why should I ever even bother to contact him even when I move to Israel? It makes no sense that he opened his emails and yet returned my Chanukah gift...I am so tired of all the B.S related to him his paranoid schizophrenia notwithstanding. He obviously does not care about me anymore so to heck with him..that's what I feel about him now....there is no point trying to contact him ever. I see no possiblity of him ever changing so what's the point?
Brief Answer:
Wait for some time before making any decision
Detailed Answer:
Hello, I hope you are doing well
See, as we have discussed in our last discussions just keep one thing in mind that "He is ill and he is not in sound state of his mind. Everything he is doing like rejecting gifts or blocking the XXXXXXX etc is under influence of his paranoid ideation and due to his problem of schizophrenia. He doesn't have insight for his actions"
Yes its normal to develop anger for him because of all his actions but you are normal but he is not. He is ill and may need your help. Don't think about these things that you will never contact him or after moving to Israel you will not contact him. Though he has done a lot of wrong things but I can justify this because he is ill.
Presently under the influence of anger you don't want to see him. Don't keep anything pending as that can result in development of guilt feeling in future. This is what I think but final decision will be yours.
" I would advise you to please give him some time, and you also take time to decide You will probably come out of bad phase in some weeks and only then you should decide about that. As per my opinion don't loose hope till end. Don't decide now, wait for some time, if possible mail him again in next month and tell him that you are moving to Israel. Don't think that you will not contact him again, you are the only person who can help him."
Thanks, Please ask again in follow up question if you have more doubts.
Wait for some time before making any decision
Detailed Answer:
Hello, I hope you are doing well
See, as we have discussed in our last discussions just keep one thing in mind that "He is ill and he is not in sound state of his mind. Everything he is doing like rejecting gifts or blocking the XXXXXXX etc is under influence of his paranoid ideation and due to his problem of schizophrenia. He doesn't have insight for his actions"
Yes its normal to develop anger for him because of all his actions but you are normal but he is not. He is ill and may need your help. Don't think about these things that you will never contact him or after moving to Israel you will not contact him. Though he has done a lot of wrong things but I can justify this because he is ill.
Presently under the influence of anger you don't want to see him. Don't keep anything pending as that can result in development of guilt feeling in future. This is what I think but final decision will be yours.
" I would advise you to please give him some time, and you also take time to decide You will probably come out of bad phase in some weeks and only then you should decide about that. As per my opinion don't loose hope till end. Don't decide now, wait for some time, if possible mail him again in next month and tell him that you are moving to Israel. Don't think that you will not contact him again, you are the only person who can help him."
Thanks, Please ask again in follow up question if you have more doubts.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Prasad
He also told the cops he doesn't want to have anything to do with me. SO BE IT..His wish is my command. There is only so much I can take Doctor....someone else will have to take care of him....I have to somehow find a way to forget him, there is no other way....
He doesn't want or think he needs help.. XXXXXXX and I have bent over backwards trying to help him or get him to communicate with us. He told us last year he is tired of wasting money on people who don't help him. Now we are his enemies...so seeing that he is biting the hand that is trying to feed him metaphorically, how is contacting him again going to change that? he no longer cares about us nor does he want to hear from us again so we are just beating our heads against a XXXXXXX wall so to speak...there isn't one more thing we can even do. Three weeks ago when I called for the police welfare check he told them he doesn't want anything more to do with me and they will file harassment charges on me if I even try to help him or ask for their help again...so I guess it is over between us....soon we will be 10,000 miles away. I can't FORCE him to take my help or to love me anymore..I am in despair about it all..
Perhaps you are right after all....I just spend an hour crying my eyes out. I don't trust what I used to know anymore...just found out again that he blocked his phone on Monday and today its unblocked again. While blocking us he can still keep 20 known people unblocked but block all those he doesn't know...this is so very crazy making....I am hoping that I can somehow resolve these feelings I have of never hearing from again somehow...my son really thinks if he doesn't hear from us for at least a month or more he may eventually try to contact us based on what he is doing now, blocking and unblocking us....it is so very very hard.....and I am so emotionally upset....its beginning to affect my health..
He doesn't want or think he needs help.. XXXXXXX and I have bent over backwards trying to help him or get him to communicate with us. He told us last year he is tired of wasting money on people who don't help him. Now we are his enemies...so seeing that he is biting the hand that is trying to feed him metaphorically, how is contacting him again going to change that? he no longer cares about us nor does he want to hear from us again so we are just beating our heads against a XXXXXXX wall so to speak...there isn't one more thing we can even do. Three weeks ago when I called for the police welfare check he told them he doesn't want anything more to do with me and they will file harassment charges on me if I even try to help him or ask for their help again...so I guess it is over between us....soon we will be 10,000 miles away. I can't FORCE him to take my help or to love me anymore..I am in despair about it all..
Perhaps you are right after all....I just spend an hour crying my eyes out. I don't trust what I used to know anymore...just found out again that he blocked his phone on Monday and today its unblocked again. While blocking us he can still keep 20 known people unblocked but block all those he doesn't know...this is so very crazy making....I am hoping that I can somehow resolve these feelings I have of never hearing from again somehow...my son really thinks if he doesn't hear from us for at least a month or more he may eventually try to contact us based on what he is doing now, blocking and unblocking us....it is so very very hard.....and I am so emotionally upset....its beginning to affect my health..
Brief Answer:
Don't let your health to deteriorate
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
This is true that he has done a lot of bad and wrong things but he has no insight for that. He has lost touch with reality. He is not even aware of what he is doing as he is having schizophrenia so how can he take proper judgement. He is constantly blocking and unblocking you and this also proves that at least he is thinking about you. Yes every thing that occurred is very bad and has caused significant devastation and you cried a lot because of all these things, but contacting with him by mail that too after one month is not a wrong idea. I would advise you to spend that time in improving the mood and to come out of bad depressive phase.
Once you come out of this bad phase then you would become able to make correct judgement about this thing. Don't let your physical health to deteriorate, have good nutrition and continue to attend the sessions of XXXXXXX
Thanks, contact again if still have some unresolved issues with follow-up question.
Don't let your health to deteriorate
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
This is true that he has done a lot of bad and wrong things but he has no insight for that. He has lost touch with reality. He is not even aware of what he is doing as he is having schizophrenia so how can he take proper judgement. He is constantly blocking and unblocking you and this also proves that at least he is thinking about you. Yes every thing that occurred is very bad and has caused significant devastation and you cried a lot because of all these things, but contacting with him by mail that too after one month is not a wrong idea. I would advise you to spend that time in improving the mood and to come out of bad depressive phase.
Once you come out of this bad phase then you would become able to make correct judgement about this thing. Don't let your physical health to deteriorate, have good nutrition and continue to attend the sessions of XXXXXXX
Thanks, contact again if still have some unresolved issues with follow-up question.
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Dr. Yogesh D
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