Question: Me and my husband have been married for four years and some change and I still don't know how to "drive him wild". We're both 27 yrs old. He saved himself for marriage so I was his first, though I've had previous sexual relationships. Sex can be great at least from my perspective, but he has admitted that masturbating, for him, is much cleaner and easily satisfying than going through all the effort of pleasing me through sex. Which unfortunately he's programmed himself to think that having sex is about pleasing me instead of us pleasing each other. I've even witnessed him get much more excited about hentai (anime porn) than me getting dressed up and provocative. It's even harder so because he doesn't enjoy any sensitive stimulation/foreplay which I absolutely love. He claims it's ticklish as such not a turn on. To elaborate, I mean caressing, kissing, licking, or nipping at other sensitive areas aside from the genitals. It's so frustrating because I'm not so experienced that I know how to ride him just right or get him off through oral or a hand job. It doesn't help that he's inexperienced because he can't teach me the best. Don't get me wrong we've discussed it and he's working on letting me know what feels good when we're doing things. It's just I'm so frustrated and depressed that I can't get him to enjoy sex as much as I do. How can I compete with quick and easy satisfaction when he doesn't enjoy seeing me in sexy lingerie or kissing and caressing him as much as I enjoy the same done to me. It's a miracle if I manage to turn him on enough to want to have sex with me (I'm exaggerating) - he has to be in the mood first usually. I want to please him enough to make him want me when I'm in the mood. Is there anything else I can do on my end to make this happen, is there something we need to work on together or does he need to work on something?