Twelve Year Old Developed Sexual Desires After Breastfeeding. Should I Consult A Child Psychiatrist?

Brief Answer: Sexual Dysfunction Detailed Answer: Hello XXXXXXX Thanks for choosing WWW.WWWW.WW for your health related query. Your step son is 12-13 years of age where he would have started to get massive surges of male sex hormone (Testosterone). This makes him attracted to females physically and desire to have sexual gratification. This is a normal physiological process . When you allowed him to breastfeed, he was aroused and must be sexually excited. if you check on him, he must be getting an erection as well. Now once this has been repeated on several occasions, he is emotionally blackmailing you. Male Children many times try to explore the bodies of their mothers but stop doing it if they are rebuked and firmly stopped. It is good that you have discussed this with your husband. I don't agree with the idea that it has to be weaned away. Children are weaned away from mother's milk to help them develop taste of other semi solid and solid food and to help them get enough calories from food because mother's milk is unable to meet the calorie requirement .so we try to fulfill the need of calories for proper physical growth. but here, the scenario is absolutely different. He is trying to fulfill his sexual needs by sucking your breasts or else blackmailing you . you should handle him with the same firmness and NOT ALLOW TO TOUCH YOUR BREASTS/PRIVATE PARTS. You should be extremely careful in feeding your younger son to avoid being detected by the elder one. THIS DILEMMA OF ALLOWING/NOT ALLOWING CAN BE EXTREMELY XXXXXXX . so please stop breastfeeding him immediately and tell in clear terms that he is grown up not needing mother's milk, he can be dissuaded by hinting that his friends will be informed of his need for mama's milk. CHILDREN DON'T LIKE TO BE DERIDED BY THEIR FRIENDS so it may act as a strong deterrant Hope this will be helpful to you. Any more questions will be welcome DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA

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Brief Answer: Sexual dysfunction. Detailed Answer: Hello Thanks for the query. There is no point in having guilt about what you did in the past. I think you should understand and follow the steps as below 1) First and foremost that your stepson has started enjoying sexual gratification by sucking your breast AND HE is not going to leave it easily 2) You even run the risk of a XXXXXXX attack by him , may be some time later, for having full sex 3) So the idea of slow weaning is like giving a green signal for what ever he wants 4) today he is blackmailing you by crying , tomorrow he may adopt some other means The Single and Only way to get out of the mess is an immediate, complete no to any physical contact , even if your husband says to continue because if something goes wrong, you alone might be held responsible. There has to be some deterrent for your son not no repeat his activities. It is not possible by any means that you let him suck your breast and he does not develop sexual feelings. I would say, if this happens, it is highly abnormal so what you are asking is just impossible. Is it possible for a normal man to have foreplay with a female and not develop sexual feelings? The answer is a NO. Please let me know if you need further help. Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa

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Brief Answer: Please learn to say "NO" Detailed Answer: Hello, Thanks for the query. You can take him to a child psychiatrist who may help you in assertiveness training . I don't think there is anything wrong with your step son .He is going through a normal psycho-sexual development phase.. You need to assert yourself with strong will. You must not ignore his sexual feelings . You may ignore them but he is never going to ignore his own sexual feelings. May be you may think of sending him to school hostel but I strongly feel ,you should learn to say ''NO". Hope you will find this helpful DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA

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