Brief Answer:
this is natural tendency of a male mind

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

Thanks for writing to us.

I appreciate your courage to clarify your status of mind about swinger sites.

Human feelings and emotions are driven by many factors which include testosterone also. Due to effect of this hormone male mind is always attracted by females. As we like change sometime in our food, clothes, lifestyle and in routine we also need something new in our sex life subconsciously. Depending on local cultural norms, laws and bonding with someone we usually avoid such unaccepted sexual behaviour consciously.
However contacting someone on swinger sites, watching porn are done by many in secret manner. Until it is hidden from people around there is no problem and one would enjoy it. But when it is disclosed and specifically to girlfriend/wife one realizes that something is wrong. Same has happened in your case likely.
You are already satisfied with your partner in relationship and in sex life so your behaviour is not directly related to you relationship.

You can say sorry and explain your situation to her in positive manner. Positive part is you did not engage with any other woman seriously. You have started counselling that is good thing.

You have been passed through the almost normal stage only, problem is your girlfriend came to know. However it is good that she came to know. By this your behaviour will stop at some level and you would not repent in future.


Hope I have answered your query, I will be happy to help further.

Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki

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