Brief Answer:
I would need some info from you.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Welcome to Health Care Magic.

I am Dr.Muhammad Ahmad, I have read your question in detail, I understand your concern and will try to help you in the best possible way.

In order to help you better , I would like you to give me some more information,

I will here by ask you some relevant questions to fill up the information gap.

1) was she perfectly fine before thyroid issues?

2) Is she hypothyroid or hyper?

3) Any weight changes?

4) Is she getting lazier?

5) Is she often depressed?

6) Seeking any medical advice?

7) Can you share her thyroid test reports?

8) Any meds she is taking these days?

9) Did she ever have psychological issues?







Waiting for your input


Regards.

Dr.Muhammad Ahmad.

M.B.B.S ( Licensed Family practitioner)

Resident M.D.

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Brief Answer:
Things are complex

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for writing back ,

I have read your post and reply closely,

I am sorry for what is happening and I completely understand how it feels when family is felt shattering apart after 12 super years and your are unable to get any clue, of what you can do.

According to her history and how things went , I can assure you that it seems something easily treatable and controllable for main problem we have here is that she herself has to be willing to seek and follow medical advice.

Her symptoms can be explained well with hypothyroidism and anxiety, people with hypothyroidism do get depressed that's common but she is also showing anxiety and delusion.

What ever the reason is either her parents or her medical condition, you can not get her cured until she is willing for it.

Now that is a real problem , how can you make her seek a medical advice , this is what you will have to think about by yourself.

I will suggest you to sit with some one who is sincere, knows your family dynamics and the situation and discuss this thing if your wife doesn't trust you know,, she is angry at you , or she doesn't consider your advice worth ,

you have to find a person whome he trust and who is willing to help you, there must be some one she would still listen to,, your kids would be too young to do this i guess, so may be a common friend or a relative,

you have to find out some one who can ask her to get medical advice from an internist/endocrinologist and psychiatrist,

She needs to be willing to go for advice otherwise it will be real hard for her to get better and will be real hard to save the peace in your family life.

I hope things get better soon, and you find someone who can help you, just sit back and think who can it be and how you will approach that person.

Wish you the best of luck.

Regards

Dr.Muhammad Ahmad.

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Brief Answer:
It will need some doing to settle.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

I am sorry to hear this i understand how bad it must be feeling,

The way you describe it , it doesn't look normal... there are millions of people who are good at work but they are psychologically disturbed ....it isn't necessary that some one having delusion should think every one is bad,,there may be few people in that list ..

There are so many successful people , billionares who often get anxiolitic over dose some reach hospital and some die of it, they are super good at their work but psychologically unstable , I am not saying she is surely having issues but this is much possible, according to her history and the way things happened.

You asked if she can get better by herself, well there are certain conditions in which thyroid issues can resolve by themselves but psychologically she hasent changed, she does need atleast one psychiatry consult atleast to rule out issues.




To me she seems to be sick , some how she is delusional and she is not even realizing that, it is very important for her to eek medical advice which you obviously can't force her to get.

The only plan i can come up with is contact a mutual good friend or relative to make her realize what is happening and to counsel her to seek medical attention. Otherwise things are going to get real complicated,

you should also try to talk this out ,,, keep making her realize that your love her much and cant think to harm her,

I hope things get better soon but it may take time and real nerve wrecking struggle.


I wish you the best of luck.

Regards.

Dr.Muhammad Ahmad

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Brief Answer:
Things can change if realization is there.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for writing back,

I understand you must be confused, dejected and really concerned but now you have to try to solve the issue.

No body stops loving some one like this after 12 golden years of marriage and having kids. The way this all happened was not normal,

Only best option we have at the moment is to make her realize that something wrong is happening , if she keeps thinking that everything is normal , then it will be really difficult to make any change in her.

She has to somehow understand that something is wrong ans it should me made right, for that only idea i have is to get help from some one she trusts and who will be willing to help... that person can convince her that she needs to change some how otherwise her family is gonna get ruined.

If you have some other idea you can discuss with me but in such situations only this worked with my patients, once they realized something was wrong then the will to make it right by themselves or by medical attention came into play.


And in most cases things got better.

But you can't cure someone who things everything is fine specially in case of psychological issues, so make a plan and try to somehow make her realize what is wrong.


My prayers are with you and your family.

Regards.

Dr.Muhammad Ahmad

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Brief Answer:
Try to make her realize something is wrong.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for writing back,

She wants to change that might be because of two reasons

1) some event took place because of which she wants to change but as you told there was no bad happenings in your life and 12 years went great till now so this possibility doesn't seem to be the cause.

2) Other cause could be her depression or something bothering her for which she is trying to find out ways to get out, as a defence mechanism.

Can you recall any unforseen event recently which could have changed her? any thing at home or work?

If not then more posibility is that, her psychological issues are causing this to happen.

I cant say if she will get worse without meds, She probably just needs some counselling session and no meds,
It's great if she is realizing this now, I hope she realizes that things arent going in a good direction and she has to change ,

I know you have been dented badly but changing forever with an ill person is not right, I hope she gets well then you can adjust thats what we call care,

Ask your kids too to make her realize what is going wrong try to communicate with her and try to show her love , she might be sick, she might not have control over what she is doing so be sympethetic to her and try your level best to make things right.

I hope things get better with time.

Regards.

Dr.Muhammad Ahmad

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Brief Answer:
Try not to argue much.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for writing back,

Look I get that she is now complaining of old things,

And some how you know that you have imprefections, which we all have, and they can be corrected.

When ever she mentions the pst just tell her that past is gone what ever is worth changing you would try to change for her and for the sake of your family and you would like her to change few things as well,

Just try to creat a connection line between you two, I know she is short tempered now but try to be within her temper limits and gradually discuss things, when circumstances are good she is in OKAY mood,

You can discuss , don't argue with her that it was her fault , just accept what you could change don't bump into im right you are right discussion , just tell her that we both will have to change to save our family and kids ,

Keep telling her that kids are really concerned and this is affecting them big time,

Ask her to sit together and discuss what can be changed in both of you,

Keep trying to make her realize that things have to be changed,when she realizes that something is wrong only then she will try to make it right.

Try not to discuss past even if she touches past just say it's gone we can change lets make a new start, don't jump into arguments about past , this will save you from fruitless argument,

Just say to her that you want to live in present and you want to make things right and you are willing to change whats not good in you but she has to take part in discussion and changing process, for her, for you and most importantly your family.

Stay blessed


Dr XXXXXXX Ahmad

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Brief Answer:
She needs to realize whats wrong

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Wether she has to take medicine or not..that will depend upon her blood works if she has fine level ir hormones then this means that she doesn't need hormonal treatment.


But this doesn't mean that she wont need psychiatric consult either.

This is the problem we are facing she thinks everything is fine... and thats what you have to do...

You will have to make her realize that there is something wrong with her and she needs to correct the problem.


Now problem is that you will need to hunt up some way to make her realize that.

1) you will have to communicate with her continuiusly .

2) You will have to involve your kids.

3) You will have to involve some friend or relative.

4) You will have to stay patient and work on it slowly.

Thats what i told you she is disturbed mentally ... and as a defence mechanism she is trying to change herself and reading strange books getting angry at you people..

She has very little clue what she is doing...

And you will have to make it realize that what she is doing is wrong.


Things will hopefully get better but slowly and steadily.

I wish you best of luck.

Regards.

Dr.Muhammad Ahmad.

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