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What Causes Low Sex Drive?
Question: Hello,
I m 31 years old and my husband is 38 years old. From last 2-3 years my husband don't take any interest in sex. If someday he takes then also he is not able to satisfy me and his penis erections loosen in mid of sexual intercourse. He is not taking any kind of drugs or medicines and doesnot smoke or drink. Please suggest me what to do?
Thanks
I m 31 years old and my husband is 38 years old. From last 2-3 years my husband don't take any interest in sex. If someday he takes then also he is not able to satisfy me and his penis erections loosen in mid of sexual intercourse. He is not taking any kind of drugs or medicines and doesnot smoke or drink. Please suggest me what to do?
Thanks
Brief Answer:
Need little more information.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Welcome to HCM.
I am Dr Rakesh Sharma answering your query.
I can understand your concern.
I need little more information about your private and personal life to give a more useful answer,
1.If this marriage has consent of both of you?
2.Are you staying with only your husband, or there are more family members in your house?
3.How is your marriage going other than sex life?
4.Do both of you feel like having sex or not?
5.When did it start?was he able to do it well before?
6.Do you involve in fore play or not?
7.How does you react to his response of not having sex or failure to sustain erection?
8.Is he under any kind of stress in his job or otherwise?
9. How many kids you have ? are they around when you have sex?
If you want to add any thing which you feel may be important about your relationship, please do not hesitate.
Please write me back, so that I can give you some useful answer.
Waiting for your reply.
good wishes.
Need little more information.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Welcome to HCM.
I am Dr Rakesh Sharma answering your query.
I can understand your concern.
I need little more information about your private and personal life to give a more useful answer,
1.If this marriage has consent of both of you?
2.Are you staying with only your husband, or there are more family members in your house?
3.How is your marriage going other than sex life?
4.Do both of you feel like having sex or not?
5.When did it start?was he able to do it well before?
6.Do you involve in fore play or not?
7.How does you react to his response of not having sex or failure to sustain erection?
8.Is he under any kind of stress in his job or otherwise?
9. How many kids you have ? are they around when you have sex?
If you want to add any thing which you feel may be important about your relationship, please do not hesitate.
Please write me back, so that I can give you some useful answer.
Waiting for your reply.
good wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Hello,
Ya our marriage was consent on both of us. Its 9 years now and I am having a 6 years old child. I am staying with my husband and my child here. Other family members are out of town. My husband started showing less interest in sex since the birth of our child as I had a normal delivery. He was not able to do well before too and no foreplay is involved. He is not at all satisfied with his job and neither of us has understanding. I am not working and he don't even want me to work too. He was a forceps born child and my mom-in-law told me that he has some little problem since childhood. He started walking at the age of 2.5 years. Always stressed and didn't took interest in games and like to eat sweets n chocolates like a child. He is very much caring ie over caring and over reacts on every situation and loves me a lot. But since 3 years I don't love him as I am nor physically, nor mentally nor financially satisfied with him. He is like a stubborn kid and understands things after a long time.
Is there any solution to my problem as I m extremely unhappy with my married life.
Regards,
Ya our marriage was consent on both of us. Its 9 years now and I am having a 6 years old child. I am staying with my husband and my child here. Other family members are out of town. My husband started showing less interest in sex since the birth of our child as I had a normal delivery. He was not able to do well before too and no foreplay is involved. He is not at all satisfied with his job and neither of us has understanding. I am not working and he don't even want me to work too. He was a forceps born child and my mom-in-law told me that he has some little problem since childhood. He started walking at the age of 2.5 years. Always stressed and didn't took interest in games and like to eat sweets n chocolates like a child. He is very much caring ie over caring and over reacts on every situation and loves me a lot. But since 3 years I don't love him as I am nor physically, nor mentally nor financially satisfied with him. He is like a stubborn kid and understands things after a long time.
Is there any solution to my problem as I m extremely unhappy with my married life.
Regards,
Brief Answer:
Communication and love is key.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again.
Thanks for your details.
I can understand your concern.
In my opinion there is lack of communication between both of you.
Both of you should listen to each other, discuss your and your son's life.
Some time it does happen that after birth of a child, husband's interest is not full filled by wife, because of her responsibility towards her child and house hold work.
I would suggest you not to retaliate,to what ever is not liked by you, but try to communicate politely with love and affection.
You can solve this problem only and only by love and affection.
Encourage him for fore play.
Even you he fails to make love to you, you can say,
"it happens some time to all the people in the world."
Hope I have answered your query, if any thing else,you are welcome or you can close the question by rating the answer.
Good wishes.
Communication and love is key.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again.
Thanks for your details.
I can understand your concern.
In my opinion there is lack of communication between both of you.
Both of you should listen to each other, discuss your and your son's life.
Some time it does happen that after birth of a child, husband's interest is not full filled by wife, because of her responsibility towards her child and house hold work.
I would suggest you not to retaliate,to what ever is not liked by you, but try to communicate politely with love and affection.
You can solve this problem only and only by love and affection.
Encourage him for fore play.
Even you he fails to make love to you, you can say,
"it happens some time to all the people in the world."
Hope I have answered your query, if any thing else,you are welcome or you can close the question by rating the answer.
Good wishes.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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