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What Is Solution For Unconsummation Of Marriage?
Question: Hello Doctor,
I got married last year in December and till date, marriage has not been consummated. My wife is saying she is not getting any interest in me and she doesn't like sexual things.
- Is there a way I can prove my wife is still a virgin?
- Is there any medication that induces the sexual drive in women?
- She seems to be an asexual, but she didn't tell it explicitly, Is there a cure for this?
- She said she can cooperate if there is any medical procedure and even I am ready to continue the relationship if this issue is fixed. How can we take this further medically?
I got married last year in December and till date, marriage has not been consummated. My wife is saying she is not getting any interest in me and she doesn't like sexual things.
- Is there a way I can prove my wife is still a virgin?
- Is there any medication that induces the sexual drive in women?
- She seems to be an asexual, but she didn't tell it explicitly, Is there a cure for this?
- She said she can cooperate if there is any medical procedure and even I am ready to continue the relationship if this issue is fixed. How can we take this further medically?
Brief Answer:
Drugs play a small role in case of unconsummation of marriage
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Don't bother to prove her virginity and not to look for any investigations. It will worsen the situation. Unconsummation of marriages are increasing nowadays. Drugs alone can't help to increase the sexual drive for your wife.
You had not mentioned your age and your wife's age.
If her Hormonal analysis and secondary sex characters are normal, we have to assess the reason for her low sexual drive.
Bad sexual experience during her childhood, (abuse, assault), happened to see some unwanted relationships, fear of pain of penetration, delivery etc. , brought up ways by her parents and vaginismus are some of the reasons for her low sexual drive. Moreover the very first bitter sexual experience when you had tried sex with her, body odor and mouth odor are also sometimes precipitated sexual aversion.
So try to find out the cause and then with repeated counselling will raise her confidence along with certain drugs. Without alleviating the basic reason for her low sexual drive, drugs won't help.
This sort of problem can't be cured by online consultation. You have to approach a good sexual medicine specialist, nearby your place, get your problem solved, It is not very difficult to cure. I am meeting such couple not less than twice in a week. All are having happy relationship nowadays.
Thanks
Drugs play a small role in case of unconsummation of marriage
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Don't bother to prove her virginity and not to look for any investigations. It will worsen the situation. Unconsummation of marriages are increasing nowadays. Drugs alone can't help to increase the sexual drive for your wife.
You had not mentioned your age and your wife's age.
If her Hormonal analysis and secondary sex characters are normal, we have to assess the reason for her low sexual drive.
Bad sexual experience during her childhood, (abuse, assault), happened to see some unwanted relationships, fear of pain of penetration, delivery etc. , brought up ways by her parents and vaginismus are some of the reasons for her low sexual drive. Moreover the very first bitter sexual experience when you had tried sex with her, body odor and mouth odor are also sometimes precipitated sexual aversion.
So try to find out the cause and then with repeated counselling will raise her confidence along with certain drugs. Without alleviating the basic reason for her low sexual drive, drugs won't help.
This sort of problem can't be cured by online consultation. You have to approach a good sexual medicine specialist, nearby your place, get your problem solved, It is not very difficult to cure. I am meeting such couple not less than twice in a week. All are having happy relationship nowadays.
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thanks you sir for your detailed response.
You had not mentioned your age and your wife's age -- I am 26 and my wife's age is 24.
Could you please provide a bit more clarity on this point - If her Hormonal analysis and secondary sex characters are normal ?? Like what are all the tests to be performed to identify the root cause?
vaginismus is not there, we took an MRI scan and the gynecologist said that anatomically she is normal.
I can understand that this issue can't be cured by online consultation, but to raise my awareness and possible ways to fix it, I am reaching out to you sir. :)
One of the worst parts is she made some false allegations against me like I forced her for sex a couple of times a day and her private parts are bleeding and sore. But we took an MRI scan for this and the gynecologist said that nothing happened as such (like no bleeding, not sore, etc). To be honest, I have never penetrated her till now, only foreplay has happened. But outside she is claiming that she is having sex with me happily.
She has PCOS and she rarely gets her periods, will it be also a cause for this??
Also could you please brief me what is the rate of success for such treatments??
We are separated after 3 months of unconsummated marriage, and it is been 7 months now. We are looking for divorce as she and her parents are not actively working on fixing this. What are the ways I can medically prove this??
You had not mentioned your age and your wife's age -- I am 26 and my wife's age is 24.
Could you please provide a bit more clarity on this point - If her Hormonal analysis and secondary sex characters are normal ?? Like what are all the tests to be performed to identify the root cause?
vaginismus is not there, we took an MRI scan and the gynecologist said that anatomically she is normal.
I can understand that this issue can't be cured by online consultation, but to raise my awareness and possible ways to fix it, I am reaching out to you sir. :)
One of the worst parts is she made some false allegations against me like I forced her for sex a couple of times a day and her private parts are bleeding and sore. But we took an MRI scan for this and the gynecologist said that nothing happened as such (like no bleeding, not sore, etc). To be honest, I have never penetrated her till now, only foreplay has happened. But outside she is claiming that she is having sex with me happily.
She has PCOS and she rarely gets her periods, will it be also a cause for this??
Also could you please brief me what is the rate of success for such treatments??
We are separated after 3 months of unconsummated marriage, and it is been 7 months now. We are looking for divorce as she and her parents are not actively working on fixing this. What are the ways I can medically prove this??
Brief Answer:
It is a rectifiable problem. Problem lies with her and you will be belammed
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Secondary sexual characters can be assessed by the examining physician.
Hormonal analysis {Estrogen, Progesterone, prolactin, FSH, LH and Testosterone) have to be looked into and they are available with bigger labs.
Vaginismus can not be assessed with MRI.
Anatomically normal is different from that of Vaginismus.
"One of the worst parts is she made some false allegations against me like I forced her for sex a couple of times a day and her private parts are bleeding and sore. But we took an MRI scan for this and the gynecologist said that nothing happened as such (like no bleeding, not sore, etc). To be honest, I have never penetrated her till now, only foreplay has happened. But outside she is claiming that she is having sex with me happily".
This the typical history for vaginismus. Many factors are behind this condition.
PCOS has no relation to your problem..
It is 100% treatable successfully. But both of you have to meet the sexual medicine specialist, when you appear in person with the intention to solve your problem.
Thanks.
It is a rectifiable problem. Problem lies with her and you will be belammed
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Secondary sexual characters can be assessed by the examining physician.
Hormonal analysis {Estrogen, Progesterone, prolactin, FSH, LH and Testosterone) have to be looked into and they are available with bigger labs.
Vaginismus can not be assessed with MRI.
Anatomically normal is different from that of Vaginismus.
"One of the worst parts is she made some false allegations against me like I forced her for sex a couple of times a day and her private parts are bleeding and sore. But we took an MRI scan for this and the gynecologist said that nothing happened as such (like no bleeding, not sore, etc). To be honest, I have never penetrated her till now, only foreplay has happened. But outside she is claiming that she is having sex with me happily".
This the typical history for vaginismus. Many factors are behind this condition.
PCOS has no relation to your problem..
It is 100% treatable successfully. But both of you have to meet the sexual medicine specialist, when you appear in person with the intention to solve your problem.
Thanks.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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