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Why Women Do Not Reach Orgasm Through Intercourse?
Question: I've Spoken about this before but every time I have sex with my boyfriend I never ever cum and it really frustrates us both. I feel like I'm letting him down and he thinks it's his fault. Nothing works, foreplay, sex, we've even tried a vibrator and a vibrating dildo!! What's wrong with me? When I rub my clit myself when Im not with him I can cum its a totally different feeling to when he does it. Help please?!
Brief Answer:
have you consulted doctor personally?
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX,
Thanks for writing back.
I can understand your worry as problem is still there.
Positive point in your history is you can cum with masturbation by rubbing clitoris. Means the pathway of orgasm from clitoris to brain is working properly.
Important point is you can not cum while your boyfriend do sex.
Orgasm is depend on sensitivity of clitoris muscle, size of clitoris and its situation in relation to vagina. Far the clitoris from vagina, more the chances of inability to achieve orgasm through vaginal stimulation. In many females clitoris orgasm is more powerful and vaginal orgasm is very less. If clitoris is small or its structure is like that it can not get stretched/rubbed while sex there may be no feeling of orgasm.
You have been given advice previously to consult doctor/gynecologist in personal for examination. Have you consulted? what is doctor's opinion about anatomy of your sex organs?
One more thing I would like to ask. If your partner rub your clitoris, do you get orgasm? If you have not tried the same, please do the same.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
have you consulted doctor personally?
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX,
Thanks for writing back.
I can understand your worry as problem is still there.
Positive point in your history is you can cum with masturbation by rubbing clitoris. Means the pathway of orgasm from clitoris to brain is working properly.
Important point is you can not cum while your boyfriend do sex.
Orgasm is depend on sensitivity of clitoris muscle, size of clitoris and its situation in relation to vagina. Far the clitoris from vagina, more the chances of inability to achieve orgasm through vaginal stimulation. In many females clitoris orgasm is more powerful and vaginal orgasm is very less. If clitoris is small or its structure is like that it can not get stretched/rubbed while sex there may be no feeling of orgasm.
You have been given advice previously to consult doctor/gynecologist in personal for examination. Have you consulted? what is doctor's opinion about anatomy of your sex organs?
One more thing I would like to ask. If your partner rub your clitoris, do you get orgasm? If you have not tried the same, please do the same.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
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