Hi there wim.
I note your detailed & descriptive history & clinical features.
I do feel you are on the right track & narrowed it down to either
HPV virus (warts) or
Herpes Simplex virus (given that the partner in concern has herpes labialis). Assuming
oral sex is not something you are averse to, then the latter is more likely implicated.
In either case, a visit to the doctor is in order.
Do however, get tested for herpes 1& 2
IgG & IgM titres & this will give you a clear idea.
The treatment & precautions we can discuss after these initial tests are done.
God Luck & trust you continue to practice safe sex. Wish you well. Cheers!
Dr Praveen Rodrigues MD
Dermatologist, Cosmetologist, Venreologist
Vikram Hospita, Bangalore, India.