How Can Calluses On The Face And Neck Be Treated?

this is driving me crazy----I have so much dirt debrie and cut hair under the skin of my face neck mouth chest ears that in some places have developed calluses or? The discoloration around my eyes including my eyelids is so dark everyone asks if I get enough sleep. Every pore looks like blackheads. When I was working as a hairdresser, my gynycologist told me to quit and seek help. .At times random areas will erupt. Over time, some of these callus areas peel off. My eyelids are trying to peel off now.The debi in them is so great my eyes have swollen.The lids are so heavy at times they hung so low I can hardly see. Its so painful and embarrassing I no longer socialize. Even the skin of my chest has swollen and hurt. I have been a caregiver to my brother, then my mother, and then my partner of 40 years, and never sought help. Now I cannot get anyone including my reg. doctor to understand. They think I m nuts now and that I pick my face. When I did try and see a dermatologist or I thot she was, she never looked at my skin and ordered an expensive cream. That didn t work. I m 63 now and I know it started when I was going thru menopause at 46. Is it too late for me? Can it be helped? I want my life back instead of being ashamed to go anywhere even the po or local store. Lately, I want to rip my face off. Please help?