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Dr. Andrew Rynne
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How Do You Regain Someone S Trust After Lying?

My problems are mainly on trust. at the beginning of my relationship with my bf he messaged like 20 girls on facebook and asked them if they would have sex with him. so many lies started. at first he told me he couldnt even access that facebook and i found a way on it and read all that. i asked him about it as calm as i could possibly be and he lied about it for days. then i tried getting on again and the password was changed and he lied about that as well. he swears he didnt actually do anything with the girls but i have talked to people that know him and they all say hes no good and is a major liar and cheater. lately i havent had any reason to think hes lying or cheating but i have no trust left for him and its destroying our relationship because i cant get over the past. ive become controlling and paranoid and its driving me insane. ive talked to a therapist before and it didnt help at all. i try to just let go and move on and it just doesnt happen. any advice?
Sat, 21 Jun 2014
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hi.
you and your boyfriend obviously have trust issues, what he's done in the past affects your relationship right now and thats not how it should be. you should not second guess yourself and your partner, thats not what a relationship is made of. these issues might not reflect as strongly right now, but one day they will and that day might be too late. you need to talk to him once and for all and tell him that there would be no future if this continues.
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How Do You Regain Someone S Trust After Lying?

hi. you and your boyfriend obviously have trust issues, what he s done in the past affects your relationship right now and thats not how it should be. you should not second guess yourself and your partner, thats not what a relationship is made of. these issues might not reflect as strongly right now, but one day they will and that day might be too late. you need to talk to him once and for all and tell him that there would be no future if this continues.