I been having problems with my girlfriend who is now pregnant. This is both of our second kid. First one together. We have a problem with saying hurtful things to each other. Its gets to the point where it gets physical. She hits me and i try to retrain her. We both have a lot built up inside. I never met my dad. My mother and I don t have the relationship we used to have when I was younger. My grandparents raised me and my grandfather passed three years ago. I still haven t gotten over it. He was my only father figure/grandfather. Things didn t go as planned with my sons mother. I thought we was going to get married and have more kids. Then I been going through things at work. I dont like living back here in my hometown. It s been three years since I been back. All of this comes out when I get upset and last night things got physical with my girlfriend and I whom is 3 months pregnant. She came at me and I pushed her back with my feet and it hit her stomach and she fell down to the ground. She punched the back of my head and came at me again and in the process of me trying to retrain her and push her away, my hand hit her face and swole up her eye a little bit and her ljp. I feel so terrible because this is the girl I love. We are 10 years apart. She admits that she can get crazy herself because she says hurtful things and then she gets so mad that she gets violent. I m trying to save this. We both are because we want to be a family. And to top it off my behavior gets like this when I have a beer. I suppose to be quiting but every now and then I have one and it triggers something in me. What can I do to better myself and be the man I need to be for my girlfriend as well as my son and myself? I need help.