How To Handle A Lack Of Intimacy With Someone You Love?

Hi my name is Nancy, my b.f. has a bad pornagraphy addiction. Has been for years. He know has problems with e.d. , rather masterbate than have sex, or make love to me. And when he does, he wont even particapate, as soon as he is done, gets up and leaves.. And also porn movies have to be playing in order to make love, there is no touching, kissing, or even foreplay.. I ts all gone.. I feel so bad that I cry trying to think of what the problem could be.... I first and still sometimes think its me, he has no feelings or attraction to me, but then says it s not me, its him. But refuses to talk about it... Can you help me understand...