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How To Handle Stress, Depression And Loss Of Appetite After Losing A Loved One?

I ve been going threw a rough time recently in January I lost my niece I was there the intire way seen everything from the section to her coming past me with so many doctors and tubes coming out of her to holding her in my arms dead , I don t feel myself anymore im always emotional and scare myself sometimes i feel stressed and overwhelmed all the time over everything sometimes I can feel fine I can block it out but I ve started going out so much and crying myself to sleep most nights i don t know what s wrong with me if its just grief ,Ive read up about depression and mental health most things I can relate too then others not I m eating the way I usually do and I don t see darkness just a constant weight on my shoulder from stress Etc sometimes I feel like im so alone that I ve no one to talk to its horrible but I look at other people like my older sister she s only coming 18 and she s lost her daughter I feel like I have to be strong for her and my family and looking at what she went threw and what other people go threw my problems feel like nothing to others
Mon, 8 Jun 2015
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Hello there,
Losing a loved one especially someone so young can be very traumatizing. I understand what you are going through. When one suffers a loss like this the mind takes time to adjust and generally up to 6 months post a loss one suffers what is called a grief reaction. These are the stages of grieving that occur with the loss-
Denial- you deny that who ever you lost is gone
Anger- you feel angry at everyone and at fate at taking someone away
Bargaining- You try to bargain with everyone including doctors and god to save that person
Depression- when you realise that there is not a lot you can do. This is the darkest hour . when you feel at your lowest.
Acceptance- you accept what has happened and you move on.

Now I have told you about these to give you a better perspective of understanding what you are going through. At this time counselling with a psychologist will help as they have experience in such cases. Plus since you cannot break down in front of family, they provide you an outlet to express your feelings.
A mild drug may be prescribed for a short while to uplift your mood but its counselling that will heal you.
Hope this helps,
Please feel free to address any further queries to me. I will be gladly help you.
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How To Handle Stress, Depression And Loss Of Appetite After Losing A Loved One?

Hello there, Losing a loved one especially someone so young can be very traumatizing. I understand what you are going through. When one suffers a loss like this the mind takes time to adjust and generally up to 6 months post a loss one suffers what is called a grief reaction. These are the stages of grieving that occur with the loss- Denial- you deny that who ever you lost is gone Anger- you feel angry at everyone and at fate at taking someone away Bargaining- You try to bargain with everyone including doctors and god to save that person Depression- when you realise that there is not a lot you can do. This is the darkest hour . when you feel at your lowest. Acceptance- you accept what has happened and you move on. Now I have told you about these to give you a better perspective of understanding what you are going through. At this time counselling with a psychologist will help as they have experience in such cases. Plus since you cannot break down in front of family, they provide you an outlet to express your feelings. A mild drug may be prescribed for a short while to uplift your mood but its counselling that will heal you. Hope this helps, Please feel free to address any further queries to me. I will be gladly help you.