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Need Counseling On Enhancing Life For A 60-year-old Couple
my wife and I are in our mid 60 s, married 42 years. Both educated Catholic in the 1960s. I have had a vasectomy in 1981 and prostate cancer in 2009. I still want to make love but she has limitations too. Thyroid disease, back conditions , is afraid of HRT due to breast cancer concern. Point is we seem to have run out of a meaningful sex life. I ve heard many say its time to just cuddle or embrace, instead If that is true it will be unthinkable for me to let go of. She is prudish about oral sex, fanticies, and the fun-of-it. there has never been another sex partner for either of us nor any sex education. I am truly ata loss here.
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Hi,
You can have normal sexual life but motivation and involvement of both individuals is a must. You should discuss with your wife about her concerns. If she is worried about decreased lubrication, or pain, KY jelly can be used. If issues relate to decreased libido and you are reluctant from hormonal replacement therapy then other supportive modes can be tried like having sessions with a sexologist or motivational psychologist etc which can help to remove concerns but that is only possible after a detailed overview of her problems.
Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further. Wishing you a speedy recovery.
Regards,
Dr. Saddiq Ulabidin, General & Family Physician
You can have normal sexual life but motivation and involvement of both individuals is a must. You should discuss with your wife about her concerns. If she is worried about decreased lubrication, or pain, KY jelly can be used. If issues relate to decreased libido and you are reluctant from hormonal replacement therapy then other supportive modes can be tried like having sessions with a sexologist or motivational psychologist etc which can help to remove concerns but that is only possible after a detailed overview of her problems.
Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further. Wishing you a speedy recovery.
Regards,
Dr. Saddiq Ulabidin, General & Family Physician
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