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Severe Mood Swings And Desperation Due To Too Many Family Problems. Help

hi, i am not sure who am i talking to. but i am too desperate . i cant find the right specialist to help' I had 23 years abusive relationship with my x. I pulled off myself from that killing relationship to save my 2 sons not to suffer from their bipolar father when they were 16 and 6 . but now they are bigger bones in my throught , they are very demanding if I don't do what they want they give hell to me. threaten me used to hit me not anymore , they have their own place now they can;t have a job permanantly as they behaive unormal they are out of job now, asking for money all time, blaming me for their failiures or unsuccessfulness. they are suspicious to anything and more I was too scared before but I have remarried 2 years ago he is very undrestanding and patient with them but they love to damage our relationship if I don't listen to them and more more more to say. I want to run away from them . I have a successful proffessional carrier but they hate me,put me down criticise me all time.........
Tue, 5 Nov 2013
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Hi,

You have been through a very difficult life and you did your best for your sons. I guess they both are adults now and you should stop feeling responsible for them now. Next time they blame you for their problems, tell them clearly and assertively without raising your voice that you did what you did your best and if that was not good enough, then you cannot do anything else. Do not let them make you feel guilty and put you on the defensive. Children often take their parents for granted, knowing that they can get away with anything. But limit setting is necessary. If they know that you will inform the police if they hit you, then obviously they will never hit you again. What I mean to say is that it should be conveyed to them very clearly that you are not weak and will not tolerate any misbehavior. It certainly will not be easy to do so for you, but there is no other way out. It is good that your husband is supportive and you can take his help in dealing with your children.

Hope this helps you. Best wishes.
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Severe Mood Swings And Desperation Due To Too Many Family Problems. Help

Hi, You have been through a very difficult life and you did your best for your sons. I guess they both are adults now and you should stop feeling responsible for them now. Next time they blame you for their problems, tell them clearly and assertively without raising your voice that you did what you did your best and if that was not good enough, then you cannot do anything else. Do not let them make you feel guilty and put you on the defensive. Children often take their parents for granted, knowing that they can get away with anything. But limit setting is necessary. If they know that you will inform the police if they hit you, then obviously they will never hit you again. What I mean to say is that it should be conveyed to them very clearly that you are not weak and will not tolerate any misbehavior. It certainly will not be easy to do so for you, but there is no other way out. It is good that your husband is supportive and you can take his help in dealing with your children. Hope this helps you. Best wishes.