Hello dear
Understand your concern.
I think it is post menopausal state which lead to vaginal atrophy/
Vaginal dryness produce pain during and after intercourse.
Following are the advice:
Use lubricants during sex
Use condoms and comfortable position
Insert penis in vagina when it is fully wet.
Enjoy sex slowly, do no t get arousal fast
Wear pure cotton loose inner wear
Apply liquid base lotion that rich in vitamin, mineral and vitamin E
Use liquid base shop
Do not use perfumed soap and deodorant
Consult the gynecologist for exact diagnosis:
You can wear
estrogen ring: estring
Apply
estrace cream
Tablet
vagifem can be useful
Keep the vagina clean
Wipe pelvic area before and after urination
Take sitz bath after sex. Seating in warm water.
Hope this may help you
Best regards
Dr. Sagar