Suggest Remedy For Itching, Pain And Swelling Around Vagina

OMG !!! Hope u guys can help me... I am 51 years of age, I have been focusing on myself and so i have taken myself off of the dating scene for a few years, so I am not sexually active. My last menstrual cycle was 2 months ago. I am a smoker and smoke about 1/2 a pack a day ( I know, I know... my daughter passed in a car accident about 5 years ago and i picked up the nasty habit) .... About 5 weeks ago i started itching like a yeast infection, it has progressed into serious swelling, burning, sharp pains, red, lips r like hard, itches really bad, no discharge or odor, no pain in the lower half of my body... I have used monostat two different times, yogurt, azo, braggs apple cider vineger, Ice packs, moist heat, sufameth/trmme thoprim 800/160mg, today i purchased some probiotics gel and probiotc supplements... I have to get back to my job and not looking forward to sitting and walking and wearing clothes or smiling to pretend that i am in a happy mood.. I HURT... plz help... : )))