Hi.. I m S. I am 23 and my husband is 28 I got married on April 30th. From our first night till May 10th me and my husband have been mating. Though painful for me, both of us were enjoying those sexual moments. On may 10th I got my periods. So we didnt get intimate. But I thought after my periods he would take the initiative. But he didnt. When I expressed the desire, he was not willing. By then it was time for us to go back to Botswana, South Africa where he is working. So I thought may be he was in a gloomy mood to leave his parents in Kerala. So I acted accordingly. We reached Botswana on May 21st. From May till Sept, its winter here. extremely cold season. Hwever, since May 10th till today, he had not been expressing interest for sex or foreplay. But my husband is too loving and caring. He kisses me on lips, hugs me, often press my breasts from tp of the dress. He s always happy. He said to his parents he is extremely happy and satisfied with me. I am also extremely happy and satisfied with him. I thank God daily for giving me such a beautiful life. I am only worried that he doesnt show interest in sex. Last month I talked to him about it openly. I enquired for the reason. He said its too cold dear...you aren t used to it... you might fall sick if lay nude ... so let the winter get stable..then we ll enjoy .. Then I felt happy about how much he takes care of me. Then slowly the winter seems okay for me. Again I talked to him.. He said week days if we intercourse, I will have no energy to go to office.. This saturday we will enjoy .. I waited for the saturday. But on saturday again nothing happened. Then I cried and asked him whether I had any unsatisfactory problems or bad smell or something. He felt sad and he said I love you so much.I have only you in this world. Don t cry. Lets have sex next time. Then I calmed down but again there s no change in the situation. Last saturday I cried again and he felt sad. So he just fingered me for 2 minutes or so and then he stopped. I was happy that atleast he did that. But was it out of my compulsion? He was too eager for sex during the 1st week of our marriage. But what happened later? He never licks my vagina. He said he doesn t like that but I give him blowjob. I very much wanted him to do the same. I told him also. Then just one day he just licked for a second or 2 but that was not enough for me. Still I tried to understand him and let him not do that. I feel so bad about it ! We are newly married! Why is he not attracted to me? What is preventing him from having sex. I have found him having erections but still he neglects to have sex. One day inorder to initiate him, I appeared sexy in front of him at night but he said You will fall sick if you dont wear all clothes...even if you lay nude I won t move...because I have self control... I felt sad at those words. I don t know what to do to make him attract towards me! His penis is too small.. when erect it would be 5 or 6cm long. But I love it so much and he knows very well that I love his penis. Please please please help me with it.