Dear Mr. Praveen Verma, I can understand your distress regarding your problem. You seem to be suffering from premature ejaculation. It is bound to cause sexual dissatisfaction in you and your wife. First of all, let me make it clear that masturbation is completely normal and doesn t lead to any physical, sexual or mental health problems. It is not the reason for your early ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is a condition which is amenable to treatment. You should seek a psychiatric consultation for treatment of your condition. Treatment with both medications and behavior therapy will be helpful. Medications would include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors like paroxetine (daily) or dapoxetine on as required basis. These medications are safe and effective. You shouldn t worry much about the side effects. Behavior therapy sessions would incorporate relaxation training, sex education and learning methods like squeeze technique, start-stop method and distraction. Hope this information was helpful. Best wishes, Dr. Sunil Gupta