Suggest Treatment For Compulsive Lying In A Person

Hi there, I think my husband is a compulsive Liar. He s super intelligent but has suffered trauma when he was little. He s done so many things during his life time and some of them are hard to believe yet I have run into people that know him and without asking questions they have have admitted on their own volition verifying things he has said to my surprise. He s so good at doing so many things yet he makes out to people that he can do more when he doesn t have to eg: he can cook like really well I mean restaurant quality but if he doesn t have the time he ll get ready made stuff from the store and and pass it off as his own - rather than to say oh look I didn t have time to cook this so I bought it from the store. (Not that people would care) but he needs to show people that he s more than what he is yet what he is - (his true self) is quite admirable. He really is a great guy who is intelligent sensitive loving and endearing and what seems to be quite baffling is he s actually done a lot of these outrageous things and witnessed by others but others know he does lie. I don t know anyone that outright dislikes him and I know he s not a mean spirited person. He actually does a lot of good for people and has a folder that details some of the programs he had originally started up and been endorsed by government officials. He s 67 years old now and I m just worried if it s going to get worse. We got married in February this year. He s been alone a long time before we met. Had a wife and a child who died in a DUI accident. They had an 8 year relationship and hasn t had one since then. He was a street kid from the age of 4 til the age of 8 when he was rescued and brought up on a cattle station in the outback of Australia by a very loving couple who he affectionately calls his real mum and dad. When he was 10 he was sent to catholic boarding school where til the age of 13 14 he was sexually abused by both priests and nuns (I know this cause he talks and cries out in his sleep) and he names others that were involved. When he was married he fought for the UN and when his wife died he focused his energies in becoming a soldier (a really good one - more conversations during his sleep which leads me to believe this is true). I m a religious person and consider myself a non judgemental person - I can see so much potential in this man I ve come to love so much but we ve been married a short time and am worried about our future whether I have the stamina to put up with this obsessive behaviour cause I can see a pattern here. He doesn t abuse me physically and when we have arguments I keep talking to let him know how I feel and how his lying affects me and it s after much deliberation he concedes where he could have possibly gone wrong or said the wrong thing. I take this as a plus sign cause he gets really remorseful and apologises profusely. He has undergone a change with me and continues to change even other people and work colleagues have said he has changed since I ve come into his life. He is not threatening to me and I don t feel threatened by him. I know exactly where the finances are going he doesn t hide that from me I m just worried about his lying - he lies when really he doesn t need to. He doesn t seem to realise he is a good person just the way he is - so I guess he really does have such low self esteem - I don t know if I can hack dealing with this - so frustrating and sometimes embarrassing but if this is a result stemming from his childhood cause he really had to survive by his wits - how can I convince him to admit he has a problem and to seek help himself? My apologies if this seemed long winded but I do want to be able to help him and I m trying not to leave him but I can see I may have to for my own sanity .... That would be a very sad day indeed cause I feel for him. Any advice would be good advice at this time. Thanks for your patience.