Hello, I can understand your concern. If your husband sees these problems in your lives as your relationship problem, and if you are not to sort your problems out yourselves with each other, then the best place to go is to a marriage counselor. Marriage counselors hear the stories and complaints of both sides and do counselling sessions and try to repair the relationships by bridging the communication gaps. Sometimes they prove to be life saving for a dying relationship. If the counselor will feel that your husband is demonstrating symptoms of depression, then he/she will refer you to the appropriate therapist. If your husband is really depressed, then he might listen to someone else s advise and seek therapy. Sometimes, if the marriage counselor sees no way of bridging the gap, they may advise you to separate too for your own good. They are experts in understanding male and female psychology in a relationship so following their advise might be a good idea for happy and healthy relationship. If your husband resists a marriage counselor, then you can involve someone from your or his family or friends who knows both of you, thinks well for both of you and can sit down and talk with you two to work on the relationship. I hope this advise helps you. Thank you for choosing HealthCareMagic. I wish you can deal with the situation calmly and with composure and strength. Take care. Best, Dr. Viraj Shah