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Suggest Treatment For Erectile Dysfunction During Sex

my husband disclosed to me after ten yrs of marriage that he has gone through long periods of excessive masturbation 2-3 times a day and started using porn as a stimulus. When we had intercourse all these years he would have trouble reaching orgasm, would complain his legs hurt and more often than not needed to masturbate in theend to reach climax. He hardly ever got a full erection and I felt bad thinking I wasn't attractive enough. Now that he has come clean, he stopped masturbating and has no problem reaching climax now. I can tell when he has masturbated because the signs will come back, heavy sweating, long duration of intercourse feeling it's more like him trying so hard to have an orgasm than it is just making love to me, he doesn't get fully erect and ends up having to masturbate to "finish". If he doesn't have sex every day he says it's actually painful and he feels "full". He says he is aroused all the time and is satiated if we have sex 1 to 2 times per day. He likes to masturbate and I just don't feel masturbation everyday is "normal"? Is there a problem with his hormones or maybe something else? I just feel like he has an extremely high sex drive.
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hello,
glad to help you with that.
as your husband have this problem of reaching climax during intercourse, i would rather suggest you two to involve in intimate foreplay before having sex.
use master and johnson techniques to enhance your sexual performances and desires.
you should try out different positions as well rather than going for the same positions over and over again.
spend some time out alone as well, make your evening romantic just like your previous times.
for your husbands problem with masturabation, he may do so as he is not getting enough stimulation to get orgasm. so you should take control, should cuddle him, play with him and do the naughty stuff with him. after all you are his partner, you have every right to play with him.
its normal to have sex 1-2 times a day even if its 11 years for your marriage.
so just lay back and try new things learn new ways to make out and make your sexual life just as it was before.
have a nice day.
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Suggest Treatment For Erectile Dysfunction During Sex

hello, glad to help you with that. as your husband have this problem of reaching climax during intercourse, i would rather suggest you two to involve in intimate foreplay before having sex. use master and johnson techniques to enhance your sexual performances and desires. you should try out different positions as well rather than going for the same positions over and over again. spend some time out alone as well, make your evening romantic just like your previous times. for your husbands problem with masturabation, he may do so as he is not getting enough stimulation to get orgasm. so you should take control, should cuddle him, play with him and do the naughty stuff with him. after all you are his partner, you have every right to play with him. its normal to have sex 1-2 times a day even if its 11 years for your marriage. so just lay back and try new things learn new ways to make out and make your sexual life just as it was before. have a nice day.