Suggest Treatment For Pain, Depression And Anxiety Of My Son

We live on Oahu, my son, Jude, and I. I have to sell my home soon because of a divorce after 33 years of marriage. My son has had several neuro-psych evaluations done. He has many indicators for Aspergers Syndrome. He has been in and out of several treatments centers and psychiatric hospitals here in Hawaii. But Hawaii does not have Medical Detox here so he begins too suffer from pain, depression, anxiety, etc. and ends up back home. This has been going on for over 15 years. I was diagnosed with a rare Lymphoma Cancer. When I went into the hospital to have surgery on my ring finger that I contracted staph from gardening, Jude had a total mental breakdown. When I came home 6 days later I found him in a depressing holding house and promised to come and get him the next day. My family lives in Michigan and I was desperately looking for a good place for him. I thought I did. It was in Battle Creek and called Best Rehabilitation. I checked references, even CARP. He was flown there with supervision. As the days wore on, I began to be treated quite rudely and unprofessionally. I sent my brother to go check the place out. Long story short, it turned out to be a front for Scientology. I had given them $5,000, over $3,000 in airfare. Then they demanded that I send a bank Cashier s check for $20,000 by that day s end or he would be taken to a hotel, given $20 and the rest was up to me. I threatened to call the police if they did this. He was sick mentally and physically. So now he is back on drugs and his behavior is getting worse. He s angry. especially at me, putting himself in dangerous situations, stealing from me, very disrespectful and at times yells and acts out of control. I need help for him. Preferably on the West Coast near upper California, Oregon, someplace. He is more interested into a Buddhist philosophy and not AA. He s very suspicious of other guys because he is teased and thinks everyone hates him. I need help. He is very suspicious and says he won t go to any more treatment/rehab centers again because they never work. He was very traumatized this last time. Any suggestions? Kathe O Reilly 808-261-6711 YYYY@YYYY