about 2 mo. ago i started to wake up in the middle of the night when my husband was masterbating. if he realized i was awake hed stop until he thought i was asleep again. i tried getting him to have sex with me but he said he was tired. since then ive tried to talk to him , let him know how it makes me feel that he would rather do this than have sex with me but he refuses to admit he is doing it. ive tried giving him better blow jobs which is something i didnt like much before and tring new things in bed but it doent work. it seems like he enjoys the blow jobs but only has sex with me to spare my feelings but later on that night ill be awaken by him doing it again. if i try to start sex than he wants me to leave him alone. than when he thinks im sleeping he starts again . ive counted him doing it 2-4 times a night. and on the nights when i can manage to get him to have sex with me he says im waking him up even i know hes already awake. but the bad part is he tries to make me feel guilty for accusing him of doing it, even threatened to leave me over it. if i caught him in the act he says hes asleep and cant help what he does in his sleep. but hes never done it before that i noticed. i dont know what to do.