Hello
Oral sex and ejaculation unprotected sex:
Oral sex is a much less efficient mode of transmission of
HIV. A number of studies have reported that the incidence of transmission of infection by oral sex among couples discordant for HIV is extremely low;indeed one study reported NO case among 239 men whose only risk was oral intercourse where 28 % knew that their partner was an HIV infected .
Fingering as you mentioned that there was not a cut or wound but dry abrasion was there . Transmission of HIV through intact skin has not been documented ( in your case scab was formed and skin was intact , so no chance of getting HIV infection by you.Peeling of skin near skin is not at risk.
Also protected sex with intact condom , no chance of getting HIV infection by you.
Although you are absolutely HIV infection free .
I recommend you wait for 3 months and get in P24 rapid nucleic acid amplification test for HIV infection confirmation ( however even after 2 weeks of initial infection
antibodies to HIV begin to appear but get in
elisa test also.After this test get in sex relation with your wife ,till wait ,this is also good for you and family.
Hope this will help you.