Hello, and I hope I can help you today.
Pregnancy symptoms can vary widely between women, and symptoms of
bloating, cramps, breast tenderness, mood changes, and irregular bleeding can be caused by
hormonal irregularities as well as pregnancy. The most common sign of pregnancy however, is a late or missed menstrual period, but if all your tests that you have performed have been negative, you are definitely not pregnant.
In order to get pregnant, especially if you do not know when you ovulate exactly, you and your partner should have sex at least every other to every third day. Self-assessment of cervical mucus and consistency is an outdated method of checking for ovulation, as it has been shown to be very inaccurate. Checking your urine with ovulation predictor kits provides the most accurate method of determining your fertile time, however, to be safe, having sperm within your reproductive tract at least every 72 hours will guarantee that there should be a potential to conceive whenever ovulation does take place.
In your case, as you have been trying to conceive for over a year and have been unsuccessful, I recommend you and your husband consult with a
fertility specialist, especially if your periods have been irregular. It is not normal to miss your period for months at a time, and you may not be ovulating regularly. A series of hormone tests on you should be able to determine the problem, and it will be recommended that your husband get his
sperm count checked as well, as 50 percent of the time there can be a male factor involved. If you are over 35 years old, I would not delay seeing a specialist further as it may decrease your chances of conceiving.
So in summary, even though your cycles are very long, if you performed urine
pregnancy tests and they are negative, then you are not pregnant. If you are over 35 I recommend consultation with a fertility doctor, and if not, I would recommend having sex more often and using ovulation predictor kits to more accurately determine your fertile window.
I hope I was able to adequately answer your question today and that my advice was helpful.
Best wishes,
Dr. Brown