What Are The Symptoms Of Herpes?

My husband has sores very similar to herpes on his penis, testicles & groin area...he has seen an infectious disease dr. who thought it was a fungus. He has treated him w/anti-fungal cream but it is still here after 4 1/2 months. A culture of 6 scrapings have come up w/nothing...I do not feel this dr. has much concern or interest in his case??? We are frustrated & completely befuddled. He is 56 yrs old I am 50 (going through menopause-for about 3 yrs). In the past 2 yrs during sex there has been a dozen times that I have experienced very painful sensation to the clitoris during cunnilingus (feels like a razor blade cutting)? The dr. says it s not related. He says my husband s condition is not contagious even tho he doesn t know what is happening. This is the second outbreak, 1st one we thought was a herpes outbreak, that was last fall. But now this second is 4 months going strong? The outbreak looks mimics herpes in sores turning pustular then breaking open, very painful then healing over & the skin sloughing off...but it s ongoing! Please any information is greatly appreciated.