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What Causes Fear Of Raising Children In Women?

Day by day I m hating life more than before. I m 22 and will be married in 6 months with the person I love. Even in this happy days I feel life is a burden. I always keep thinking the reason of my existence and in my mind always come to the solution where i say i wish i was never born. Life is a horrible thing to have. Because i have life i have to be in this world where everything doesn t go the way i want. And when i think of the hereafter I get more mad. Like why do I have to go through life and face the after life. Like life isn t horrible enough. I don t even like kids and I never want to have any of my own although my fiance loves children. So, when he talks about wanting kids it makes me cringe. I also think what if he likes the kid more than he loves me. I m jealous of my future child. (I m disgusted at myself as well) All my friends like kids but why don t I? It could make life a lot easier. These type of thoughts keep me demotivated to do anything. I don t find any reason to pursue a career. I m going to be a graduate soon and i don t find the will to even look for a job. All my life i always wanted to stand on my own feet. I ve studied hard the last 3 years. Now everything just seem pointless.
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Hello,

It is good to know that you will be marrying a person you love. You have not stated anything about your past history or illness. It looks like in the past you have passed through neglect or abuse/ stressful event, a major illness, etc.

Since you are losing interest in daily activities you might be suffering from clinical depression, anhedonia or pedophobia.

There are many young women who are afraid to raise a child because it is a full-time job & requires sacrifice. Insecurity is another major factor that is making you restless.

If you are not mentally set for marriage then take your time. Don't force marriage on yourself rather help yourself prepare for it. Marriage is a big event you need to first get mentally & physically fit for it. Take your sweet time.

In my opinion, you should visit a counselor or a psychiatrist & discuss openly how you feel. You may need some medication, physiotherapy & talk therapy. You may require to go through some blood tests & Imaging tests. Your treatment will depend upon the pathology detected.

Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further.

Regards,
Dr. Nupur K, General & Family Physician
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What Causes Fear Of Raising Children In Women?

Hello, It is good to know that you will be marrying a person you love. You have not stated anything about your past history or illness. It looks like in the past you have passed through neglect or abuse/ stressful event, a major illness, etc. Since you are losing interest in daily activities you might be suffering from clinical depression, anhedonia or pedophobia. There are many young women who are afraid to raise a child because it is a full-time job & requires sacrifice. Insecurity is another major factor that is making you restless. If you are not mentally set for marriage then take your time. Don t force marriage on yourself rather help yourself prepare for it. Marriage is a big event you need to first get mentally & physically fit for it. Take your sweet time. In my opinion, you should visit a counselor or a psychiatrist & discuss openly how you feel. You may need some medication, physiotherapy & talk therapy. You may require to go through some blood tests & Imaging tests. Your treatment will depend upon the pathology detected. Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further. Regards, Dr. Nupur K, General & Family Physician